Debate - Do Porn Sites Kill The Fantasy

[Lee]

Originally posted by djdez
That's a far cry from what you said originally.

Huh?

I said a limited members area... thats what i originally said didnt i?

Im just throwing ideas around at the moment but im considering throwing a new site up with a limited access members area to see if it actually does have any effect on th members staying or going.

My apologies if i didnt make it clear enough

Regards,

Lee

[djdez]

Sweety Darling,

What you said originally was that paysites are giving too much to customers.

Afterall, if you have a surfer looking to find pictures of naked school teachers for example, and you deliver them a site catering to their fantasy... why would they stick around? The fantasy has now become reality.

Again. Far cry.

Now what you are saying is you want to give them less for less, then upsell them for more to get more. Basically, you get what you pay for. Not really a novel idea in any market including the adult market.

[Dzinerbear]

Lee, and all,

I think perhaps were pushing the envelope, and maybe we are killing the fantasy.

Does anyone remember Sean Patrick live? I remember how my friends and I were all glued to the computer waiting to see what he was going to do, and particularly, waiting to see if we could see him naked.

There were four straight guys who lived together and they had a cam at that time, too. And for a while it was all fascinating. But as soon as we got a couple of looks at SP's dink, we lost interest.

Also, remember when Survivor first aired? It was truly fascinating, but then for me, it petered out after a couple of episodes. And Big Brother was next, and I thought, "Who cares."

When I first got on the Internet years ago, it was amazing that you could just even see naked people. Okay, I've seen naked people, now I want to see naked people sucking, now fucking, now ...

We become desensitized to sex pretty quickly, and once we're used to seeing something, I think we want to or expect to go to the level.

But judging by the rebills I'm seeing, I guess it's not the same for everyone.

Cheers
Michael

[Chilihost]

Looking at porn is not reality! If I fantasize about a 3some and look at pictures of a 3some, I am still not having a 3some! If anything it gets me thinking and fantasizing more about that 3some where I am actually a participant.

hrmmm....yes, lemme think about that for a while


cheers,
Luke

[Harlan]

I have a slightly different take on the subject. Porn doesn’t KILL the fantasy; if we do our jobs correctly, porn FUELS the fantasy. First of all, and luckily for all of us, fantasies are not finite in number or scope: if one particular one is satisfied, it will be quickly replaced by another that is already there, lurking in the shadows, to come to the surface or more likely, morph into something even more refined in terms of the ultimate desire. If someone always wanted to go to Hawaii, and a good travel brochure, like our tours, finally got them to take action and assuming the destination was all that it should be (hence having what’s on the tour/brochure actually in the designation/member’s area), that doesn’t mean now that their long term desire to visit our 50th State has finally been met that the person will never travel again – he will either return again because they had enjoyed so much (think recurring) while at the same time, perhaps they will want to try different things while there and/or the interest in another vacation spot will start to develop.

Equally if not more important for all of us, sexuality is not finite in terms of desire either but since the urges are biologically with us all, it’s how we choose to satisfy them that is in a state of flux. If someone has a thing for hairy guys and he joins a site filled with hirsute men, his “type” doesn’t suddenly change after seeing all of the fur. Inside the site, he looked around a picked out his favorite guy and got his yah-yah’s to him a time or 2 or 3 but pretty soon, he starts wishing that guy was a little…shorter, taller, had this color eyes or had a tattoo or wore glasses or whatever. In other words, he is refining his fantasy once the main one has been immediately satisfied. If our members area’s are truly niche specific, he’ll look around to see if he can find that perfect guy AND if we update that member’s area in a timely manner, he’ll stick around to see if his new definition of his perfect man will be added the next time and the cycle begins again. No matter what you like, without the emotional attachment - but on a purely physical level of attraction and desire...nothing is perfect for you for long!