how long have you been in your current relationship

[XXXWriterDude]

Wow! Maybe it's just me but it seems like everyone on here has a long-term relationship. Congratulations to everyone!

Yeah, now ask how many of those have been sexually exclusive for the ENTIRE time! LOL!

[basschick]

Sana Chan - single isn't a bad thing even if women are generally taught that they're nothing without a man. that's bs!

the most important relationship in my life, which i'm in now, came up while i was enjoying being single and had no plans to change that. we were in a band together and for quite a while it never crossed my mind that this might be my person. as a result, we got to know each other with no sexual or romantic pressure or expectations - which is a great way to REALLY get to know each other.

i think looking for a relationship makes one focus more on having a relationship than on getting to know the people you meet - which might keep you from getting to really know the shy ones. why not enjoy being yourself? then whenever you meet people, whether it's tomorrow or in ten years, they will get to meet your happiest - and most appealing - self





okay, stepping off of my soapbox now to ice my eyes *blush*

[Goldie]

Yeah, now ask how many of those have been sexually exclusive for the ENTIRE time! LOL!

Well not to speak for everyone else, but I have been sexually exclusive with my partner for 9 years and 10 months now.... I was somewhat of a slut in college, so I guess I got it all out of my system then... :whip:

[Paco]

There is nothing wrong with being single, if that is what a person wants.

I truly feel sorry for people that can not be alone - is their existence so hollow & devoid of meaning that they require another to add some (meaning) to it?

I've been single since late 1993, which of course means I've been forced to hear, daily, all sorts of advice and what it is I have to do.
Oh, are you okay.... did somebody hurt you? You have to ...

Some of my old 'friends' often tried to set me up because when we would all go out they would feel sorrow for me because I was/am the single guy in a gaggle of couples.
I stopped hanging with them because the huge slap to the face (insult) hurt, not my being single.

Seems as if being single is not trendy, thusly I (and other singles) do not fit in with society.

[Sana Chan]

Wow! So many caring replys! I'm touched you guys would say all this and give me the advice.

No worries about the hurt. Moron decided drugs were more important in his life than I was, so I was the one who broke it off. He lost me, all but 2 of his friends, and his career (the night deposit of $2500 "disappeared" while in his care). So frankly its no big loss to me, more for him.

I got over him and have dated, just nothing more than a coulpe of dates. They just didn't really intrest me beyond "Nice ass". It was fun though. A mongolian, a main land chinese, and some weird little asian country I can't spell. Its near china. What? I like asian men!

But I don't mind being single, its just no fun will almost all of my friends are married or in long term relationships. Only one isn't and he's had the hots for me for years. But its really annoying about it. Lots of compliments that seem really empty, mostly trying to be "smooth". blech, I hate that.

Anyway, I'm still enjoying the single life. And my friends are trying to help me out with the shyness. Just the nights that I'm lonely suck, which is why I have a loving and devoted bed warmer named Bizzy the cat. ^_^

[LiveTwinksCam]

7 years together on June 16th.