... according to a paper presented by a "spanking expert" for the American Psychological Association.
http://health.usnews.com/usnews/heal...l-behavior.htm
Perhaps this Expert needs a visit from Michael and some of the folks over at Tropixxx to set him straight on this issue :)
My parents didn't spank me once and Don's friends called me "Vanilla Jasun."
just saying.
mind you, that's because it's the flavour of my ball gag.
Oh please! I was hardly ever spanked as a kid. Hmm, maybe it's the lack of spanking that causes me to crave it now. Hmmmm. :donmike:
What i'd like to know, is when did throwing things at your kids become discipline? or slapping for that matter.
KINKY KINKY KNINKY!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by DonMike
Are you going to be at TPF?
Heh heh, kinky doesn't even begin to cover it. LOL! I don't think I can make it this year. We're working on a huge project and I have to be here for it.Quote:
Originally Posted by abostonboy
Well, that would certainly explain a lot! LOL.
Luckily, I only spank adults, so the "damage" has already been done in most cases!
I would never hit a dog or a child for any reason!
And yes, I might hit a cat if the circumstances were right. :goof:Quote:
Originally Posted by TropixxxStudios
Michael, I think you should invite the author of the paper to drop in next time he's in your area :)
I spent many years as an active member of the SM community and I have to laugh whenever I read stories like this. First let's deal with the article's misconceived "studies", then we'll move on to the misconceptions the "experts" have of the SM community and Masochists. I was raised to respect my parents. Their word was supreme, whether I agreed with it or not. If I chose to act against their wishes, I also chose to accept the consequences of my actions. The consequence was rarely a spanking. I received only two throughout my entire childhood and I was anything but a saint. I was smart enough though to realize that spankings were painful and undesirable. This had absolutely NOTHING to do with neither my curiosity nor my desires for the SM lifestyle. I am NOT one of "the lucky ones" as was so eloquently stated in the report. I am simply smart enough to differentiate between corporal punishment and eroticism. These "studies" are fraught with negative and judgmental opinions. Which leads to the misconceptions of the SM community in this report. Not everyone who enjoys the pleasures of the SM lifestyle enjoys spanking. There is a great deal more to the lifestyle than whips and chains and beating each other senseless! Yes, it is a fetish for some who "play" in the SM community, not every last one of us is all about spanking. The idea that being spanked as a child leads us to become deviants as adults is ludicrous! If that were the case, then anyone born before say 1980ish, when all this don't spank your child crap started, would be wallowing in the streets in a sea of depravity! And of course any site with SM content would be rich beyond their dreams. I strongly believe in having a firm hand with your children, especially with the world the way it is today! As a former Walt Disney World Employee, I can tell you there is a HUGE difference in the children that are raised with discipline and those that get the "timeouts" or a "firm talking to". It is my opinion that we waste more time and energy and resources trying to make excuses for people who refuse to take responsibility for their action when we should be using these resources to confront TRUE mental and physical illnesses. Not just funding someone's own personal "Christian" agenda.
SPANK ME!Quote:
Originally Posted by DonMike
A friend told me when he was little his parents had to come up with alternative forms of discipline because he was getting erections every time they spanked him!
Do you have his contact information and is he over 18? :innocent:Quote:
Originally Posted by LavenderLounge
I posted this thread with the intent of lighthearted banter on a Friday, and didn't intend to get into the psychology of it, but since it's been raised, it might be worthwhile to address it.
I suspect that the correlation between eroticism from spanking or S&M related behaviors in adulthood and childhood spanking has less to do with the spanking itself and more to do with the nature of the control exerted by the person (presumably a parent) doing the spanking.
In other words, it's the sense of *being dominated* or *being controlled* in a particular way as a child, rather than the specific act of spanking, that is likely to correlate to the adult behavior.
It's a similar thing with rape (and no, I'm not trying to connect the two, so please don't flame me.) Rape is not a sexual crime, it is a crime of violence and control, and this has been consistently shown. The typical personality of the rapist is someone who never had control of any kind in childhood, but for whatever reason, instead of seeking a more healthy outlet for the feelings arising from the childhood lack of control (such as, for example, S&M/bondage/spanking, etc) the coping mechanism became one of acting out violence and control fantasies on others.
So, from my view, we should neither blindly accept that spanking will cause aberrant behavior, nor should we assume that it is harmless. My guess is that if I were to find the actual study in the journal where it was published, rather than some newspaper's "pop psychology" interpretation, it is probably a reasonably sound study with conclusions drawn from the data, rather than from the opinions of the authors. My experience in reading psychology studies in college was that oftentimes, the results of a study directly contradicted the assumptions or opinions of the study authors, and they were fine with this... the majority of scientists (well, other than those funded by drug companies and such) are searching for truth rather than trying to justfy a preconceived notion. Studies that don't meet that threshold generally won't stand up to peer review and so rarely get published.