For myself ... I'd much prefer to do and promote lesbian sites to lesbians ... but we're talking a damn near non present micro niche. I do gay because I at least understand it, and is often done with a lot more finesse and artistry, while straight porn very rarely catches my interest because it all looks pretty much the same.
I'm certainly not a biz wiz with all of this yet, even after more than a year of working this there is so much I don't quite grasp or haven't found the time to learn just yet.
As to the female boards, I agree ... it's the boards and topics not necessarily the people. I know I've been asked to post here and there on female webmasters to help it along, but in all honesty, I have a hard time finding anything there to really discuss!
I definately have a feeling of "home" here, and yea, I may not be all cut and dry business, but I'm just as thrilled to have gotten to know as many of you as I have on levels other than the best way to market your programs.
The comment about how gay men and lesbian women interact is interesting as well. I do find that a lot of the men here really do want a woman's perspective and have often asked that I take a look at something they're working on, and it's a good feeling to know that my opinion matters. Or maybe they just want my design eye ... either way, the relationship works LOL