how do you make sense of the death of a friend?

Patti, I'm so sorry to read this and that I did not see it sooner. Losing a friend is never an easy thing. Especially when they are so close as to consider them family. I've been on a spiritual path in the past few years and I firmly believe that this life is only a small part in our greater journey. It's like taking a cosmic cruise, you put your regular existance aside for a time while you get on this great big ship, and you make friends with your fellow passengers and you follow the trip from beginning to end, and when you are done you go off onto what other great adventures await you. Your friend is off on his next big adventure. And you are left with all these wonderful memories of him. Mourn, feel the sadness, cry all you want (it's free, nobody is stopping you), and cherish the good times (even the bad ones). He's a part of you and you will always have him. And know that you have your family and friends, and that includes us, your family here at GWW. *big hugs

Oh, and vent all you want. It makes the post count go up. LOL!

How you holding up Lady? We are all thinking about you. My husband, my son and I did a special meditation for you when we tucked in my son at bedtime. Hope you can still feel it.

i'm holding up - i'm sort of numb for now. thank you and your family very much for thinking of me. i'm touched.

don mike - thanks for everything, and that unsentimental ending got a laugh for sure.

thank you, all! your responses on this thread made me feel better, and a little more connected.

Patti,
I just wanted to send you some warm woofs...you are an awesome woman and I am so sorry for your loss. It sucks losing someone. I really hope you are feeling better..they are in good hands!

Buck

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Originally Posted by basschick

don mike - thanks for everything, and that unsentimental ending got a laugh for sure.

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I tend to use humor to deal with things. They always say that laugher is the best medicine. My friend's mom has always been like a second mother to me, and very much an inspiration to the kind of person I am today. In fact, I always call her "mom". She was telling me about when her mother was in her last days and she had gone to the hospital with her brother to stay with her. Well, the nurse hadn't told them that thier mother had been moved so when they got to her room there was an elderly black woman in her place. Without missing a beat, "Mom" said to her brother, "Well, at least she's got her color back". LOL!

I think even in my darkest moments I try to find some glimmer of humor. It keeps me going. I hope my comment wasn't too out of place, Patti. I only thew that in because I care about you and figured you'd need a little smile in the midst of everything.

Be well, you know we are all here for you. (hugs)