Originally Posted by
gaybucks_chip
A lot of things get lost over electronic communication, so I suppose it's possible that you simply aren't aware that your commentary does sometimes come off as condescending and rude (and this isn't my opinion, but the opinion of quite a few people, actually...). I don't mean that as an insult or personal attack, but just as an observation. Sometimes how we come across electronically and how we actually feel are completely different.
I freely admit that my comments can sometimes be snarky, and (not speaking about you or your posts in this case), if a commenter says something that I consider to be completely stupid or inane, or, for example, a poster constantly solicits advice but then tells those who offer it that they're wrong (again, not talking about you), then I *will* call them on it. But for whatever reason, my posts seem to be perceived differently (at least by those from whom I've had feedback) than yours, and I don't think the majority of people share your viewpoint.
I also know of both the "personal public experience" (sic) with the female person you're speaking of, as well as the background surrounding it. I also know said person quite well, having worked with her professionally in several capacities, and feel qualified to say that, while you're certainly entitled to your perceptions and opinions, the overwhelming majority of people in the industry who have had the opportunity to talk to or work with this person simply don't share your viewpoint; in fact, she is generally considered one of the most knowledgeable and helpful people who is incredibly generous with her time and information, and many webmasters have been able to grow their businesses significantly in large part due to her knowledge and assistance.
I also take issue with the notion that there's no value in stating disagreement on a public forum; more than once, I've changed my own opinion on something after reading contrasting viewpoints from others, and I think that all of us can benefit from spirited debate, as long as it's respectful.
As I've said before, I'm sorry that you feel that my comments in response to your posts are "attacks", since they are not intended that way, nor are they perceived that way by any of those from whom I've received feedback.
All I'm suggesting is that we use the communities such as GWW and Gaydemon.biz as an opportunity to share and learn from one another, rather than an opportunity to tell others they are wrong, or why we know better, or how much better our way is than someone else's. Each of us has things to contribute, and if we do so with an open mind and with the intent of helping each other, then we all benefit.
