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What do you do when you have heard so much about your partners Ex, then finally one day you meet and you realize that they are almost a duplicate copy of you?
The question?
How do you handle the fact that you and your partners Ex are almost the same personality?
That's easy. You kill him and bury him in the back yard. The world simply cannot handle two Darren Austins. There's just not enough fabulous to go around. LOL!!!
That has happend to me...& all you do...is realize...He's my man now!! Bitch Stay Away!!!
I'd say my ex is confused and consistant. lol
So this would not be a bad thing then?
Juan , that was a very good point that you made!!
I think it would be hard to accept that and try to move on , I would be bothered.
I haven't had a lot of boyfriends.. but the last guy who's ex I met was totally nothing like me at all.. he was a nice guy (that's a lie.. he was a jackass), but a complete 180 from me. He was uptight and conservative. He liked dance music. He was afraid of Motorcycles... anything with an engine other than a hair dryer, actually.
He had clothes that allowed him to brag about where he got it and how much it cost him.
He knew the names of fashion models and designers.
He had a mirror in every room of his apartment.. even the kitchen.
He didn't like me at all.. after I left, he said i was a "Freak".
I think that guy was going out with me because i was nothing like anyone he'd ever met before.
But he was a goof too, and I eventually came to my senses and kicked his ass to the curb.
And then promptly broke into his apartment and cut the crotches out of all of his pants.
I have to say I agree with Don...Quote:
Originally posted by Ounique
That's easy. You kill him and bury him in the back yard. The world simply cannot handle two Darren Austins. There's just not enough fabulous to go around. LOL!!!
Darren:
Try listening to the Guns N' Roses Song "I used to love her" but replace her with him..lol It will all make sense!
-=Chipmunk=-
Your favorite Straight Dating Expert!
:evil:
WOW,Quote:
Originally posted by Jasun
I haven't had a lot of boyfriends.. but the last guy who's ex I met was totally nothing like me at all.. he was a nice guy (that's a lie.. he was a jackass), but a complete 180 from me. He was uptight and conservative. He liked dance music. He was afraid of Motorcycles... anything with an engine other than a hair dryer, actually.
He had clothes that allowed him to brag about where he got it and how much it cost him.
He knew the names of fashion models and designers.
He had a mirror in every room of his apartment.. even the kitchen.
He didn't like me at all.. after I left, he said i was a "Freak".
I think that guy was going out with me because i was nothing like anyone he'd ever met before.
But he was a goof too, and I eventually came to my senses and kicked his ass to the curb.
And then promptly broke into his apartment and cut the crotches out of all of his pants.
Ok first of all I am flying you to Charlotte to be a guest on the Darren Austin Show. Second, GOOD FOR YOU GIRL , cutting crotches out of the pants, that was GOOD! Evil but Good.
Second , did I date this guy? lol
See, the thing is Michael is very good friends with his Ex's. It bugs the shit out of me. But I have learned to accept the fact that they are going to stay friends. We have his most recent Ex over for dinner at least once ever 2 months. There is nothing you can do about it. You just have to show your man that you love him more than words can say...:love:Quote:
Originally posted by Darren Austin
So this would not be a bad thing then?
Juan , that was a very good point that you made!!
I think it would be hard to accept that and try to move on , I would be bothered.
Hmm, I wonder why the first relationship ended?
If he replaces guy1 with guy2 who is just like guy1, would the same things go wrong again? or is he trying to revive guy1? The good thing is that if you ARE a lot like the last boyfriend and you know what went wrong in that relationship, you can steps to avoid the same thing happening again!
I can't believe that there is another man out there that is nearly as fab as you Darren!!
XXOO
If you find yourself in a situation and find out your boyfriends ex is your evil twin, dont be too alarmed. It is very common for someone to date the same person just a different face. That happens w/ alot of people. We fall into these paturns. Think back to your ex-boyfriends and see if they all have something in common or the same interests (aside from yourself) LoL. But the more you hear about this ex-boyfriend, find out what about that person they didnt like and take a look and see if you fall under those categories if not then you worry too much, but if you fall under too many of them then you need to see where that will take you in the long run. Communication is the important thing. If your partner is just bitching cause the relationship bombed then he hasnt entirely let go of it.:kitten:
ugh...
You would have to present me with this existential hypothesis on a Monday wouldn't you...way to be provocative DA. Wasn't there a Jerry Springer episode on this somewhere???
So...if I met my bf's ex and he appeared to be just like me...
I would want to know how and why they broke up! I mean, am I going to be simply a repeated pattern? I'd certainly examine my own attraction to my bf in relation to my ex's and look for the similarities to be aware of any mistakes I may be repeating. But isn't that natural for most relationships at some point or another?
I've always been an extremeist and, true to form, every time my bf does anything that slightly reminds me of my psycho-fucked-up-wish-he-were-dead-ex-from-hell I go off the deep end. My current bf has actually been very patient and understanding. He knows too, that my problems with my past are MY problems, mostly shame at having stayed with the bastard for so fucking long. (really, I'm not bitter)
So now that I've passed on my neurosis to you DA, aren't you glad you asked? Seriously though, here's some good advice that my mother gave me once on relationships:
"Every couple is different and each make their own relationship. Remember that."
XOXO
J
Well.. he told me that I was "Over weight and unattractive"Quote:
Originally posted by Darren Austin
Second, GOOD FOR YOU GIRL , cutting crotches out of the pants, that was GOOD! Evil but Good.
So he had to pay.
I love this part "Every couple is different and each make their own relationship. Remember that."Quote:
Originally posted by Jason
ugh...
You would have to present me with this existential hypothesis on a Monday wouldn't you...way to be provocative DA. Wasn't there a Jerry Springer episode on this somewhere???
So...if I met my bf's ex and he appeared to be just like me...
I would want to know how and why they broke up! I mean, am I going to be simply a repeated pattern? I'd certainly examine my own attraction to my bf in relation to my ex's and look for the similarities to be aware of any mistakes I may be repeating. But isn't that natural for most relationships at some point or another?
I've always been an extremeist and, true to form, every time my bf does anything that slightly reminds me of my psycho-fucked-up-wish-he-were-dead-ex-from-hell I go off the deep end. My current bf has actually been very patient and understanding. He knows too, that my problems with my past are MY problems, mostly shame at having stayed with the bastard for so fucking long. (really, I'm not bitter)
So now that I've passed on my neurosis to you DA, aren't you glad you asked? Seriously though, here's some good advice that my mother gave me once on relationships:
"Every couple is different and each make their own relationship. Remember that."
XOXO
J
Jason that was AWESOME!!!!!
I know why they broke up , it was 4 years ago
Hey Kids,Quote:
Originally posted by Darren Austin
So this would not be a bad thing then?
Juan , that was a very good point that you made!!
I think it would be hard to accept that and try to move on , I would be bothered.
Excellent question Darren!
I can say without a doubt that I am nothing like my partner's ex's.
One, I'm the tallest and just overall largest of any of them. Well, I was when we first started dating and I was lifting.
Two, I'm the first partner outside of the caucasian race.
Third, I'm good in bed. Let me dream...
Fourth, I'm damn good looking.
Fifth, I forget what fifth was for cause my ICQ went off.
Anyways, welcome me. My first post!
Hmm, every guy I have ever dated more than once was latin. I think there might be a pattern.... they all do seem to hvae a common thread. I think I am attracted to a certain type of man. They weren't all the same though, I can't say any one was a carbon copy of another. The common traits were dark hair, brown eyes, height, weight, age similar to me, able to hold a decent conversation and then just for good measure, throw in something that made them absolutely impossible to keep dating. :wacko: We all have our neuroses--I think I am attracted to impossible relationships!
I just want a naked man to call my own~
I've only ever had two boyfriends. And I can say that i'm absolutely nothing like thier ex's, mainly because I'm absolutely nothing like anybody else on this planet. :)
yes, you are Oh So Unique Don...Quote:
Originally posted by Ounique
I've only ever had two boyfriends. And I can say that i'm absolutely nothing like thier ex's, mainly because I'm absolutely nothing like anybody else on this planet. :)
I may be Unique but you're the Juan!!! ROFLMAO!!!Quote:
Originally posted by TopBucks_Juan
yes, you are Oh So Unique Don...
ANTHONY,Quote:
Originally posted by Anthony
Hey Kids,
Excellent question Darren!
I can say without a doubt that I am nothing like my partner's ex's.
One, I'm the tallest and just overall largest of any of them. Well, I was when we first started dating and I was lifting.
Two, I'm the first partner outside of the caucasian race.
Third, I'm good in bed. Let me dream...
Fourth, I'm damn good looking.
Fifth, I forget what fifth was for cause my ICQ went off.
Anyways, welcome me. My first post!
I am so glad that you posted on my board, thank you !!
U rock YOU are with hands down the kewlest Str8 dude!
VERY strong point, this is true, and you have NOW made me see the light!Quote:
Originally posted by Ounique
I've only ever had two boyfriends. And I can say that i'm absolutely nothing like thier ex's, mainly because I'm absolutely nothing like anybody else on this planet. :)
I never said you would actualy look like your b/f's ex, but there might be similarities. Some people dont fall under those paturns. Some people do date different people. However the majority of people do. That is one reason why people date so much. Everyone always has an "ideal" partner anyhow. So there are going to be sertan things that you look for in a person, But as they say you take the good with bad. There might be things you dont see or choose not to see when looking for the things you do like. The important thing is to find out what you want in a relationship, or what you want out of one and setle for nothing less. If you do you will never be satisfied. I believe there to be someone for everyone, not just someone for right now. :kitten: :kitten:
I won't get treated any different now that everyone knows I'm straight, right? :)Quote:
Originally posted by Darren Austin
ANTHONY,
I am so glad that you posted on my board, thank you !!
U rock YOU are with hands down the kewlest Str8 dude!
I never talk about my ex to my current BF. But his personality is almost the same & somewhat same body type & works in upper management. Only difference, my current is about seven years younger.
The Case Of The Ex!...I've Actually Met 2 Of My Previous Partner's Ex's (I "Change-Up" Ever 6-7 Yrs!:) , Thank God! I Was Nothing Like Them , But It Did Kinda'Bother Me In The Fact That I Felt In Each Relationship My Partner "Traded-Down" The Ex's Where "High-Paid" ,"High-Educated" ,"High-Professionals" , Hell! , The Only Thing I Am Is "High-Maintenance"!:)
Hi Anthony. Don't worry, we are very supportive of our straight friends. I mean, if that's the way you choose to live your life, we totally understand. Some of my best friends are straight, not that there's anything wrong with it. :)Quote:
Originally posted by Anthony
I won't get treated any different now that everyone knows I'm straight, right? :)
Hee hee. :bush:
This reply struck me the most, I think that what you said in this is fabulous, I doubt that you are in anyway a trade down, high maintenance I can relate to (TRUST ME ON THAT ONE) LOL.Quote:
Originally posted by longboardjim
The Case Of The Ex!...I've Actually Met 2 Of My Previous Partner's Ex's (I "Change-Up" Ever 6-7 Yrs!:) , Thank God! I Was Nothing Like Them , But It Did Kinda'Bother Me In The Fact That I Felt In Each Relationship My Partner "Traded-Down" The Ex's Where "High-Paid" ,"High-Educated" ,"High-Professionals" , Hell! , The Only Thing I Am Is "High-Maintenance"!:)
Don,
You are too funny and for the record WE MISSED YOU WHILE YOU WERE ON VACATION!!
High-Maintenance People Aren't Born , Their Made!...Must Have Been All Those Years Living With "Grandma"!:)..."Sit-Up Straight" , "Don't Sit There" , "Don't Touch That" , "We Musn't Think Or Speak Of Such Things" , "I'm Not That Kind Of Boy"!:)
So I Promised Myself I Would Never "Hoard" My Money Like A "Miser" , Buy "Furniture" (Antiques) I Could Never Sit In , Surround Myself With People With The "Social-Content" Of A Shot Glass , And Most Important! , Save My "Virginity" For The Next "Volcanic-Eruption" Sacrafice!...You Only Have One Life , Shouldn't It Be A Happy One?:)
Sincerely ~ "Too Young To Stop , Too Old To Change"
I dont think that I have ever met you however
I would love to have you as a guest on my TV show , you are bright, funny, and you make allot of sense!!
BRING IT ON , cause you would bring down the house
:) , I Would Love To Be On Your Show!:),I Just Need To Borrow "Janet-Jackson's" "Superbowl-Halftime" Outfit And At Some Point In Your Show I Can Have A "Costume-Malfunction"! (Hopefully The Bottom Falls Off , I Am Sooo... "Flat-Chested":)
I Don't Believe We've Met (Unless You Hang Out At "Bath-Houses" Or Have Been To One Of My "Escort-Parties"!:) , Perhaps I Will See You "On The Foor" At The Upcomming "Net-Expo" ( I Only Do The "Show/Expo's" )Or If Your Ever In Hawaii You Are More Than Welcomed To Stay With Me ( Keep In Mind I Film So There Will Be Nudity On The Premises !:)
Sincerely ~ "...Emergency Exits Are Located At The "Fore" , "Mid" , And "Aft" Of The Plane..."
Just wanted to make sure Don! :)Quote:
Originally posted by Ounique
Hi Anthony. Don't worry, we are very supportive of our straight friends. I mean, if that's the way you choose to live your life, we totally understand. Some of my best friends are straight, not that there's anything wrong with it. :)
Hee hee. :bush:
Let's meet up in Vegas. We will have our Reality sites done by Jan, but will need more content for our regular sites.
hun - I wonder how many times leonardo da vinci started a masterpiece only to start again on another canvas. Be secure that your partner has certain standards and levels of perfection that the old copy just didnt have - but you DO!!Quote:
Originally posted by Darren Austin
What do you do when you have heard so much about your partners Ex, then finally one day you meet and you realize that they are almost a duplicate copy of you?
The question?
How do you handle the fact that you and your partners Ex are almost the same personality?
It wasnt a mistake, nor are you second best - rather - your the finished masterpiece rather than a work in progress
....
when you see someone you've had your eye on beginning the transition of taking their current relationship and ending that... and although you want them to be happy - you secretly are selfishly pleased that they will be - becoming "available" again...
how do you - feel about yourself, knowing that perhaps the reason you are pleased their relationship is ending - is because you want them for yourself ...
and isn't it crazy... if they live a gazillion miles away from you - and you are still entertaining the thought of making them yours...
am I thinking out loud again ??
shame on me...
~Bell
Robert,Quote:
Originally posted by TheLegacy
hun - I wonder how many times leonardo da vinci started a masterpiece only to start again on another canvas. Be secure that your partner has certain standards and levels of perfection that the old copy just didnt have - but you DO!!
It wasnt a mistake, nor are you second best - rather - your the finished masterpiece rather than a work in progress
I just read what you wrote and all I can say is awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
thank you !!!