Would you marry a chick to have kids and make a famliy? A friend that knows you are Gay, you are great friends with, and doesn't care if you have sex with guys etc., etc. ?
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Would you marry a chick to have kids and make a famliy? A friend that knows you are Gay, you are great friends with, and doesn't care if you have sex with guys etc., etc. ?
I don't like kids, so no. I have to leave Target if there is kid throwing a fit anywhere in the store. :bomb:
Apparently I missed the gene that makes you want to have children. I believe it's the same gene that makes you want to live in the suburbs, drive a minivan and shop at WalMart.
Damn genetics!
You know it's hard to like other peoples kids. Gay parents have the best mannered, educated and dressed kids. *sarc* How many straight parents would have a kid as strikingly gorgeous as my boy?Quote:
Originally Posted by Xstr8guy
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I never really had a family growing up so I'm corny when it comes to having kids, making a family, etc. Besides.. as they get older they cook, clean and generally become more useful - *just kidding*
note: pic is only up for a bit then I'm changing it for obvious reasons
I can't say I have a parental bone in my body, except towards my yellow lab pup. But I can appreciate gay men that have or want families.
Ironically, I've found that it's fun to *try* having kids with my partner, though. No luck so far, but I'll keep you posted. :goof:
Now why does this remind me of the joke about the guy in the bar with his monkey who eats a pool ball?Quote:
Originally Posted by HotMaleVideos
LOL! I'm very similar... I do have a wee bit of a soft spot for my nephews & neices though. (For about an hour...)Quote:
Originally Posted by Xstr8guy
In answer to Squirts original question: No there's no need -- I'm happily out so there's no need for me to go that route. I think my partner would have something to say about that too. :)
Proud Poppa Alert!! He's a great kid Squirt -- looks like he has loads of personality. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Squirt
You know this is the conflict I'm having. I'm married to my sons’ mother (almost 3 years now). She's my best friend since Jr. High. We've never "lived" together. She is doing egg donation for me in 4 months to have more kids. AND I met a girl, while starting up my non-profit in the Philippines. She's a nurse. We've talked every other day at least for the last 4 months online. Talked on the phone etc. My good American friend there knows her too and says she's for real.Quote:
Originally Posted by robin
The whole Gay thing is cool with her. She wants to carry the baby from the egg donation coming up in 4 months and have kids with her and me. I live in Oz so U.S. citizenship isn't her goal. She's totally cool. I want to do it.. but also remain true to myself and my sexuality. Ok I've spilled my guts.. fire away! :high:
"Proud Poppa Alert!! He's a great kid Squirt -- looks like he has loads of personality." Oh it shows that much? ha ha ha
I'm not sure I'd get married... can't figure out how that would make any difference.
I don't want kids... never have... but if I did,I'd just have them without that marriage,I think..
Well marrying my sons mother in a civil ceromony meant I could instantly take him overseas. My wife being my egg donor means no attorneys. My wife carrying my child means no attorneys. BUT marrying anyone other then my wife now, I'd have a prenup. Man it all gets so complicatedQuote:
Originally Posted by Jasun
Got it.,
well, you sure didn't go into it without thinking it all through...so good for you.
Sounds like you made the right call.
That's the only thing that sucks for me about being who I am. I do want kids someday, badly, and it's going to be hard. I would marry a woman to make it happen, as long as she was a long time friend, and she didn't mind me also having a husband. It's not polygamy if you aren't sleeping with your wife :p
I dont want kids... unless that is we can have one that starts off at 5 years old and we can exchange it once it hits 14 LOL
Regards,
Lee
actually i've had a proposal from a girl
my long time best friend. we've known each other since 1st grade and even came to study in the states together.
so when I told her I was gay, the second thing she said to me was lets get married and have kids.
It just might happen. But not in the near future
I do have a couple friends back home, who did that she's lesbian, he's gay got married and have two little ones
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Originally Posted by Lee
are you sure you aren't my boyfriend's brother?! :eek:
He says the exact same thing
Even more so after his brother had a boy, that lil bugger must have a whole pack of energizer bunnies.
There are so many combinations on how it could work. My ex and I were together over 5 years and my boy came along about 2 1/2 years into it so a partner that is female, isn't the only solution.
I just feel at 33 I want to get on with the family. To make a family since I don't have one etc. etc. Tired of waiting for things to fall in place and time to make them happen. You know what I mean?
the only thing I missed being a gay guy is haveing a kid!
There are too many people on this planet and we're already starting to implode. Cancer and AIDS and everything else we've got going is nature's way of saying, "There are too many of you." We don't think of the earth as a closed environment because it's so vast, but it is a closed environment. There's nowhere else for us to go.
The best think the Chinese and Indian governments could do is to start legitimizing and legalizing homosexuality. I know of so many gay Chinese guys who are forced through family pressure into getting married and having kids, all the while, they're unhappy and sucking dick on the side.
And I think that more of us over here should start thinking about adopting some of those baby girls that are discarded because China's one-baby-family rule.
I don't understand the need to propogate. And when I see parents deprived of sleep, with vomit all over these t-shirts, and dragging screaming brats around, or when I see some dirty foul-mouthed teenager cussing me out because I didn't give them a quarter as I passed them on the street, I understand it even less.
Dzinerbear
That's a great post and you make a lot of really good points.
There have been plagues & disease since life began on earth. Bacteria, microbes & viruses attack single celled organism, just as they attack Plants, mammals, fish, birds, reptiles, etc. Metals have disease (rust, corrosion). Over time rocks turn to sand, rivers to streams and mountains to hills. Is that natures way of saying there's to many of them? The battle for survival isn't exclusive only to mankind, it exists it anything that is. Don't take it personally :high:Quote:
Originally Posted by Dzinerbear
There's a whole solar system out there and beyond. Astrobiolical scientists have shown that life can, and probably has, jumped planets. NASA's astrobiological roadmap is a good place to start in understanding the realities of living on other planets in our solar system.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dzinerbear
I agree. Imagine all the children that would have loving homes if adoption was free. My son isn't my genetic child and I believe in adoption. I have no family, if something happens to me, my son has no family, so I need to make a family. The cost to adopt 3 children is so much more then doing what I'm considering. If I could adopt children at a reasonable cost I would without a doubt. The village I'm involved with in Angeles, Philippines is full of my "adopted kids" I guessQuote:
Originally Posted by Dzinerbear
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NOW:
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It's amazing how just a little bit can change a persons life there.
I agree. Imagine all the children that would have loving homes if adoption was free
If they made it easyer for a gay guy, or gay couple to adopt a kid, there would be some many fewer kids looking for a good home.
At the moment, the earth is a closed-environment because we have nowhere else to go. I'm not saying there aren't possibilities. When I talked about this issue I was mainly thinking back to high-school biology when they discussed experiments where they put a pair of breeding rats in a closed environment to see what happened. And always, there's a point where they reach over population and the environment and its resources can't support the population, and that's when the disease sets in to kill of many to save a few (and the species). I recall reading similar things with fruit flies and white-tailed deer.
And yes, it's a shame – a crime really – that governments prevent gay men and women from adopting children and giving them (in many cases) a better life.
Cheers
Dzinerbear
I'm very paternal with my friends, but I can't see me ever having kids. I'm too much of a perv. I have stuff from work, leather stuff, music I do for adult films, I mean my whole apartment is X-rated. LOL!!! I would not be able to do away with my open sexuality the way one would need to for having kids around. I'll leave that to the people who are good at it. :)
HAHAHA
yeah, we do have an x-rated apartment, don't we?
LOL yeah that is a drawback! I'm the most G rated pornographer you'll ever meet. No mags or anything here. All my stuff is on the computer and that's all secure.Quote:
Originally Posted by WWC-DonMike
I feel like such an outcast here! Not many people want kids but you all have good reasons and diversity is a good thing :high:
Hey Squirt,
I'll definitely be having kids in the next 5 years or so and am definitely looking forward to it!
I however won't encounter the problems you face as my girlfriend will definitely oblige.
Sad to think that you have to go to so much trouble to have kids when I could turn around tomorrow and do just that without a second thought from anyone.
All the same - good on you, it's not everyone who can provide a loving home for someone the way you do!
Cheers,
Allan