Ever been e-stalked?

[BDBionic]

I have an e-stalker I've been avoiding for about 4 years now. This guy pops up everywhere. I'm half expecting him to start posting on this board one of these days. Some random guy I chatted with for like 5 minutes in a GayOL chatroom years ago who's made it a point to follow me around ever since.
And it's like... I've been avoiding him and made it quite clear I'm not interested in talking to his uberpsychoness for 4 years yet every time he finds me on a site or in a chatroom somewhere will message me like "You want to talk to me now?"

NO, FUCKER! I've made it plainly obvious I think you're a nutjob and want nothing to do with ya. I'm not gonna change my mind because you've gone and got yourself a new screenname!

What did nutty people like this used to do before they had the internet? Hide in the bushes outside people's bedrooms?

[Jason]

Technology is so great....those bushes were fuckin picky!

[AusCoding Allan]

Yes, (allan raises his hand).

I had one about three years ago now. This is how the story goes!

One day checking my emails on my (now deleted) yahoo email address and notice this email from some random person, now this was a fairly new email so I wasn't receiving any spam at this stage.

So I open the email and am confronted with two A4 pages of text so I begin to read it to see what it's all about.

It went something like this:

You don't know who I am, but I was watching you whilst you checked your email in the university computer labs the other day (at this point I was freaked completely). He goes on to describe how he instantly recognised that I was gay after observing me talking to friends of mine at the eatery on campus - was i being followed?

So these descriptions of how we were made for each other and so on and so forth keep going for page after page until he gets worked up enough to describe what he want's to do to me.

Now all we need to do for this part rather than the graphic is imagine his on campus accomodation room covered in a certain sticky substance produced by the body and him cleaning it with his tongue - further details censored.

Needless to say I was young and I freaked completely. I immediately reported the email to campus security and the police. It was investigated and the guy who actually attended an alternate campus of the university was suspended.

I received an apology in writing and all is now forgiven but OMG wouldn't you just talk to someone first before going to all that trouble?

Cheers,

Allan

[basschick]

i haven't had an e-stalker, but i've had real stalkers. i had one guy who i never saw outside my place, but he left things on my car - presents and notes. he stalked me for over three years. he wasn't sure which of 64 apartments i lived in, so he hired a guy to dress as the cable guy and talked to people in my building.

after that, i received a letter through my actual mail to my apartment number. and this guy lived 35 miles away and was married - surely he could have spent time with his wife instead.

my other stalker was simpler - we were briefly introduced by a friend, and he ran my license plate at the dmv. he used to hang out outside periodically, and come over and talk to me. eek!

you know, there are WAY too many people in our world in need of therapy and something to do!!!!

[BDBionic]

that's nuts.

What are people like that thinking?

Does he picture himself 50 years from now telling the grandkids "How did we meet? Well... I saw your grampa in the campus library and eatery and followed him around in secret for a long while before sending him a graphic and obscene e-mail detailing all the things I wanted to do with him and how I wanted to lick his babies off the dormroom wall and... well... the rest is history?" *shared glance, smiles, twinkly eyes*

[BDBionic]

Originally posted by basschick


you know, there are WAY too many people in our world in need of therapy and something to do!!!!

Yeah that's just scary. At least with an e-stalker I feel someone insulated and what not. I can keep the person at a web's length.

A guy I've been goin' on the occasional date with recently was telling me about his mom's ex boyfriend who used to stalk her. He grew up on a farm in Indiana where it was just their house in the middle of fields and the nearest neighbors were like a mile away. He and his sister used to see, in the middle of the night, the glow of their mom's exboyfriend's cigarette at the treeline in the distance in the middle of the nite as he paced back and forth while staring at their home.
They found paths cut through the forest between the old dirt road he used to park at off their property and make the half mile trek to the treeline near their home so he could spy on them.
That story gave me goosebumps

[Jasun]

Man, I used to get them really bad. I used to be a regular on a talk show here in Canada (it was called "The Chat Room" and it also had Seamus O'Reagan, Ben Mulroney and Jen Howlett...who you've never heard of if you're not Canadian), but I also worked at that record store I was talking about in another thread.

Guys used to come into the store claiming to be an old friend of mine, and could they get my phone number or my schedule, so they could come in when I'm working.

Guys would phone in the middle of the night and leave long voice mails telling me how they've been looking for a guy like me forever, and can we just meet for coffee?

When my email got out, I would get people sending me naked picutres of themselves, and asking to get together with them and
if I wanted to come over "just for a blowjob" I could... it got rather weird.

But once I left the show, it all stopped. From time to time, Much Music will air a special I'm on or something, and it'll briefly start up again, but I'm not a star anymore, so nobody loves me anymore.

Which means I no longer sleep with that .22 under my pillow.

[Jason]

i haven't had any stalkers that i'm aware of.

but i dealt with plenty as model manager at pornication. one guy tried to run over our security guard once. we had all sorts of crazies sending shit.

for a second, i read this thread feeling a little left out that i didn't have a stalker (because everything is about me u know)...then i remembered the crazies and decided your's is company i'm glad not to keep in regards to stalkers.

[nicedreams]

My boyfriend stalked me for 9 months online. He always im'd me and bothered me in chat rooms about meeting him and going out on a date. I wasn't interested but he never gave up. I even blocked him for a few months. Finally, I gave in and met him. We've been together for almost 5 years now.

Jim

[Lee]

Luckily i havent :thumbsup:

Regards,

Lee

[Chris Alan]

Originally posted by 123Jason
i haven't had any stalkers that i'm aware of.

If you want me to stalk you, let me know.

[randy]

Brian I am not a nutt job and I resent you saying so!!!


so............what are you wearing?

[RainGurl]

creepy stuff...
A few years ago, i had some "random woman" start sending me emails and IMs. I had no idea how she got my screen name or email address. At first, they were pretty innocent. Then one day she writes "That's a nice blue shirt you're wearing today" or something to that effect. Then "Why did you leave work early yesterday?" things to let me know that she was watchihng me. Then she got mean. She started threatening me, warning me I would get what I deserved, stuff like that. After a couple of months, she finally started called me at home. After a few calls, she revealed herself. Turns out it was a woman i had barely met a couple of years before. We had been on differnt sides of a debate involving probably 100 people. Her office was in the same building as mine, and she saw me and remembered me. Somehow tracked my info down and started the little game. To top it all off, after she revealed herself, she wanted to go out out with me.

After that is was very creepy being at work, outside. Always feeling like someone was watching.

[Gary-Alan]

Originally posted by BDBionic
Yeah that's just scary. At least with an e-stalker I feel someone insulated and what not. I can keep the person at a web's length.

Babe I don't want to creep you out, but do NOT fall into this false sense of security. I did and I was wrong.

I had an e-stalker for years. It actually started in an AOL chat in 1995 and lasted until the ealy part of 2001.

It all started out very innocently and we had fun in the chatrooms. But it got intense about a year into it. I would try to avoid him online and the more I avoided him the weirder it got.

Now, in that time period I moved from the east coast, to the west coast and back again. I closed my AOL account, had three different ISPs and three different phone numbers. And each time he found me. It was intense. I knew he was in Canada and I thought that was a good buffer zone.

This guy was VERY thorough. I used to use the screen name Jake and never mentioned my real name, but somewhere along the line I must have talked about adult webmastering or something because he knew when I started using Gary-Alan (and I never use this name when I would do chatrooms). He was finding my numbers from the companies I worked for - he evidently was calling as a customer and asking for me. They would give him my number, because I worked from home and it was the way to get me.

I started getting VERY nasty calls and messages from him. I thought it was easy to delete message or just hangup. But it got to the point where I had to call the phone company and get the authorities involved, when he found my address and was threatening to come down and see me to finish this once and for all.

The phone company gave me a special code I needed to put in after every call he made to me. If his number showed up three times or more then there was a case. So that's what I did. When they tracked him down, he told the police and agents that I liked it all and that we were lovers and I was just mad at him because he moved out.

They laughed and told him that his number and name showed up on a special report 127 times in 5 days. They didn't take his bullshit at all, thankfully. The good part, in my mind, was he had been calling from his mother's house that last week. And she lived somewhere in Michigan. So even though he lived in Toronto, he was in the US when he got caught. He spent a few days in jail and hit with tons of fines. He called me a few times from Toronto and I hit that code into my phone, and it registered that number. The last I heard the Canadian authorities were dealing with him and had something else on him. So, he was going to jail for that. I never found out what the other thing was but of course in my imagination he murdered some other person he was stalking.

So to end a very long story, I haven't heard a peep for over three years. And I like it that way.

But my advice is to not think that you can keep it online. If the person is demented AND detail oriented they can figure shit out without you realizing it.

Good luck, bud!

Gary-Alan

[jIgG]

first guy i had sex with.
i told him to beat it couple days later, he calls up the phone company and asks them to trace my phone number and calls me at home one day. Oh you didn't think you can just get away from me did you. I met up with him to clear things up told him again to beat it.

luckily for me i had to come back to the states for school, but he apparently didn't give up. he found out where i live and has been asking about me from every person he can see near our apartment building, even talked to my dad who told him to ge lost or he'll break his bones

and i've never heard from him since.