ever get the feeling...

[Dawgy]

... youre gonna die a lonely old fag?

[gaystoryman]

nope, but sounds like you need a date... or something.. another bored friday night is it?

[Dawgy]

yeah i lasted an hour at the club before i had to leave.

o well, i have work to do anyway *sigh*

[gaystoryman]

well you could always put an ad on your sites, you never know... heck you could make a whole niche site out of it too and best of all, wind up with a hottie or two.

[Jasun]

Will someone PLEASE teach the Dawg Man how to pick up?

[Dawgy]

Originally posted by Jasun
Will someone PLEASE teach the Dawg Man how to pick up?

haha :angel:

[Ounique]

Dawgy, the best thing to do is be comfortable with who you are, make and keep good friends so that you always have a family of choice around you who love and care for you. Love and sex will follow, happiness finds happiness. Make yourself happy first. And, starting things off, you have us. We all love you.

[robin]

Good one Don -- Most important points.

Hey Dawgy,

I think everyone here has been giving you some excellent pointers in the various related threads you've written lately about your quest for a man.

I can't stress enough that you've got to get out and be forward regardless of what type of a relationship you're looking for.

Dawgy, are you a drop-dead gorgeous guy who dresses flashy? Just wondering, because maybe a lot of guys are intimidated to go up to you. Too stand offish, too flashy, too gorgeous -- God he doesn't want to talk to me let alone jump into bed...

We're all thinking the same things.

Try something like this the next time you go out...

Go up to the guy and have a completely serious facial expression and an extended handshake and say,

"Hi! My name is Dawgy and I'm performing an exercise to eliminate my fear of approaching men whom I find attractive. Thanks for participating."

Then; with a sly smile on your face, go on your way...

It's an instant curiosity generator and it helps get you talking to guys.

Here's something else you can try...

"Hi, my name's Dawgy I'm here for a convention what are you here for?"

I've been there dude and it truly sucks. But I got out there and did something about it. Presently I'm in a real great partnership of 5 years with a guy who is 25 years older than me. So age isn't a barrier either.

cheers & hugs

[Lee]

Originally posted by robin
Dawgy, are you a drop-dead gorgeous guy who dresses flashy?

No he isnt LMAOPIP (running and ducking from Dale) j/k

Actually considering the guy is 30-something he doesnt look at all bad for his age IMHO

Regards,

Lee

[Hotpopporn]

Ounique-

When??? Just how much lag time does it take?

[Socket2Jake]

Originally posted by Lee
No he isnt LMAOPIP (running and ducking from Dale) j/k

Actually considering the guy is 30-something he doesnt look at all bad for his age IMHO

Regards,

Lee

Oh no you did not!!!! haha!

Actually that's true though, Dawgy looks like a 20 something skater kid still

[Direct Holly]

Originally posted by Dawgy
... youre gonna die a lonely old fag?

Awww... I sometimes think I will die a lonely old dyke but then I remember all the friends I have like Jakey Poodles and it helps so try to focus on your friends

[Socket2Jake]

Originally posted by Direct Holly
Awww... I sometimes think I will die a lonely old dyke but then I remember all the friends I have like Jakey Poodles and it helps so try to focus on your friends

awwww...I love ya too, babe! We will die together..the old single dyke and the old single fag LOL

[Ounique]

Actually, I just went to a workshop called "Cruising 101". Don't laugh. I honestly don't know how to flirt. If I have a purpose, like a convention or a club function, I can work a room like nobody's business, but to just go to a bar and meet guys? Forget it. I totally suck. So I took this workshop and the guy said something that made absolute sense to me. He said "nobody ever goes to a bar to be alone". I mean, think about it. If you go to a bar and you are sitting there waiting for someone to approach you, nobody does, look around and see how many other guys are doing the exact same thing. You will be amazed. So you think, would you talk to someone who approached you? Probably. So those other guys will more than likely talk to you as well. And if you offer your hand and say hello, they would have to go out of thier way to be rude to not accept it and say hello back. And we all hate to be rejected, right? But you know, you are not going to fall for every person you meet, and not everyone is going to fall for you. It's not a big deal. If you meet someone you don't fall for, do you think there's something really horribly wrong with them? No, they are just not your type. (not talking about the really scary people who walk around the bar pantless for no reason and stuff like that) So, if you are not somebody else's type, that does not mean there is anythink wrong with you, it just means that you are not their type. By talking to them you will learn if you are compatible, and if nothing else you may make a friend.

One last thought on this subject. If you go to the bar and don't talk to anyone, then you will go home alone. If you go to the bar, and talk to people, you may go home alone or you may not go home alone, you may set the grounds for future meetings, or you may make friends. Think about it. You really have nothing to lose.

And if all else fails, just get a t-shirt that says "Who do you have to blow to get laid around here". At least it will be a conversation starter. (don't think I haven't thought about it myself)

[Hotpopporn]

Hey Qunique,

Is that the class taught at Faultline? I have been curious to check it out. So, did you meet anyone at the class?

There are two things working against me for meeting someone in a bar; being shy and being impatient. I have always hated spending the night in the bars, unless I was with friends. And, now that I'm no longer in my 20's or 30's, I really don't find spending time in bars a great option for meeting people. I would rather do something that I get something from, like volunteering, and if I happen to meet someone, great. That way, if I do go home alone (which is usually the case), my primary objective wasn't to not go home alone.

I am still hoping that someday I get over the sometimes paralyzing fear of rejection. As you said, and I paraphrase, you really have nothing to lose by talking to someone new.