I started to talk about this in another thread but thought id needed it own thread.
Maybe some just can't "define" straight.
I.e...they could be questioning, bi, in the closet...etc...
I live with someone who shocked the hell out me tonight.
I was talking about fixing a "straight married" woman friend of mine up with a tall dark and handsom woman friend...cause I think my "married friend is gay" and her marriage sucks...she's very un-happy. I would really like her to meet this woman. She flirts with all my sisters lesbian friends anyway...
I figure, what the hell, they meet, they'd like each other anyway and maybe just become great friends!
Well, my friend says to me "Oh, well...then that would ruin her marriage and she'd never go back to men again".
And, he said in such a way as to sound like it would be a BAD thing.
I said WTF are you saying???...ruin her marriage? First, I want to know would THAT be a bad thing IF she actually were gay and just never got to explore it, met a woman she liked and decideed to live "her" life now???
He says....again..."Well, that would ruin her marriage and she'd lose the life she has now. I mean she has kids and she's married. Why ruin that?"
I said "Well, if she's gay after all and is repressing it...she's never going to make anyone happy...her kids or anyone"
He says "Yeah well, but she married and she has her kids to think of"
Sheesh, I felt helpless...I didn't want to defend something that "hadn't" happen.....but, by the same token, I didn't want to get into a whole debate over something that is a personal issue...know what I mean
Ummm, is it just me or can anyone else see the homophobia in gay people as well?
I was shocked as hell at what my friend said...shocked I tell ya. To the point I couldn't or we wouldn't even discuss it any longer
(I should ad here that I asked if he were homophobic....and I also should add that I asked if he maybe thought he should have stayed in HIS straight mariage) After that, I knew I needed to back down....someone here could enlighten me.
Please splain it to me like I'm 6LOL...maybe they just can't "define" straight.
I.e...they could be questioning, bi, in the closet...etc...
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