I find that when people flirt with one another here, it seems they get more attention (from business to play). Bec and the other beautiful women here are excluded because, being that they are either straight women or lesbians, the pressure is off. And I love em just the same!
(Maybe I didn't word this right, soooo, don't get all jiggy with me because of it...I'm only throwing stuff out here as I feel/think right now...still LOVE most everyone here!)
Being a gay man that tries to become a member here in "good standing", well, I've found that it's been very, very hard to become "part of the total board" unless you "know" someone or know them from FL, NV conventions, etc...
I've seen some members come in for the first time and receive the warmest welcome...why? Because they've been to the xxxconventions and "know" many of the webmaster members of the "gay webmasters community" already. That's cool, but, why not welcome everyone with the same and shout out a "special hello" to the one's you already know....then don't forget about them (the "new" ones)
Where as, I've seen some come in for help and they leave because they've had a hard time feeling like they're "fitting in".
Most everyone here is very warm and welcoming...it's why I stay a member. I'm just wanting to offer some sugestions about welcoming new people who do not know all the folks here and haven't "met them in person" ...or flirted with them "online" or been to FL or Vegas.
Sugestion....Start a newbie forum or a thread for the new people who are feeling they want to start a new gay site/sites.
There are so many talented people out there that could give back to our community so much. As well as so many here that want to help the new webmasters (at times they seem few and far between) unless someone is known or at least has "met" someone from here or where ever).
I had a person that I thought had the greatest designs. Very unique and fantastic designing. They seemed like a very wonderful person...their sites rocked, she had fantastic straight sites and she wanted info on how to make gay sites because they were thinking about doing that...and they should because they're sites rocked...she rocked in my perception...but, I feel she didn't think she fit in here (no one really communicated with her much in her post). So, she left here (i.e., I haven't seen her post here anymore...and, she isn't the only one I'm talking about. I KNOW she would have had wonderful gay sites and fit in here well!
This is only my own observation (however, I have been asked by a few webmasters why they're not feeling welcomed here)...I myself haven't felt too left out. But, then again I'm a "forward" type person and could give two shits about how anyone feels about me. I'm not into the conventions, I don't go out to the bars, I don't make "online" friends-business or otherwise, brunch, lunch and or otherwise....still, I come to this board to meet people that are in the biz, chat, to explore all avenues, and to keep alert to what's happening in this end of the biz...that's about it. Making friends online...well...I have my other opinions about that as well.
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