Whats the thing you fucking hate about being gay?

[maxpower]

It may not be gay specific, but I go nuts when a waiter asks me what my SON will have (jeez..am I that old?)!

“Cough” well that would be a good sign after all your waiter works for tips, but not sure I would say you are to old, but your BF might be a bit young. Their again too if your going to date someone 20 years younger that you or something I would expect that stuff. What if I dated a 6 year old or even a 16 year old :baby: But love is blind I would go with it I guess if it works and you are not really "Dad" too him

[Alex_Manifest_M]

I am 48, he is 32. HARDLY robbing the cradle here....

[maxpower]

I am 48, he is 32. HARDLY robbing the cradle here....

You don’t need my approval, but that’s cool with me

[abostonboy]

I think this is probably your best post. Probably one of the best 'personal' posts I've read in a long while.

It's true and comes from my heart. And thank you btw.

[DonMike]

abostonboy, I totally respect where you are coming from and you have made a well placed argument for why you do not want to be given a label.

There are many guys out there who have never really dealt with being gay who often use that same argument, but where abostonboy has very good reasons for feeling the way he does, I have heard people use that same phrase "do not label me" as a way to hide thier homosexuality and that makes me really sad.

I am a gay man. I'm happy to be a gay man. I am a man who enjoys sex with men. I've never had a sexual thought about a woman, but if the opportunity arose and I was given the chance to bed a woman I found attractive I would. I would allow a woman to tie me up and flog me and all those other fun kinky things if we had the right connection and energy. But that does not make me straight any more than a straight guy giving or getting a blowjob from a gay friend suddenly becomes gay.

I embrace every aspect of gay society. I have a great love for the femme guys and sissies, the butch dykes, the drag queens, the leather men who are hypermasculine and the leathermen who are more femme than the drag queens, the twinks that are genuinely sweet and the twinks who are full of themselves because they have youth and beauty on their side, the great elders of our community who have a lot to teach us and the bitter old queens who despise the world they no longer feel a part of, the nice people and the jerks, we all have something to contribute to this world. I think it is a great tragedy when I hear someone say "I hate femmy guys" or "drag queens shouldn't be allowed to march in the parade because they make us look bad" and other things like that. The reason the rainbow flag is our symbol because it is there to celebrate diversity. Each of us is a different color and combination of colors. Without the others there is no flag. Without the drag queens we would not have the civil rights we do today. Without the gay republicans we might be a lot worse off in the current administration than we are now. Each of us has something to offer, don't forget that.

[abostonboy]

I agree that it is sad that many hide the sexuality by being afraid to be labeled gay.

We toss labels around like crazy. He's Mr Smart, He's The Crazy guy, bla bla bla.

Some are good, some are bad.

To me the only TRUE label I can give someone is that of a human being.

And I don't mind being called gay, stupid, brilliant or whatever. I just respect people more who accept for what I am and don't have to feel the need to label me. Especially when in fact that the only person who really knows me is myself and as I said i enjoy gay sex, but that does not make me gay.

I actually offended someone who asked me to speak on Marketing straight sites to gay men in one of the old LA conventions. Not really offended but I think the point was a gay webmaster was suppose to speak.

She asked me if I was gay. My respone was it depends on what time of day you ask me. Her reply was what do you mean. I replied back are you free tonite.

[robin]

I fucking hate the fact that most of your "friends" either want to screw with you or what I find worse is that people say "yeah, I'll call ya". More worse is when people you know for a long time and you lost them somehow came back and tell you oh how much they would like to stay in contact with you, then when you try to call them, email them etc and hear them say "I was gone for a few days and had no access to the net", when you SEE they read the email and when you ask "<name> do you really want to stay in contact" and you get a "oh, please don't ask so hard questions that late at night"... I AM FUCKING WAY BEYOND PISSED AT BEING GAY when it comes to that.

I believe that straights have the same issues, but why can't people just tell you straight in the face and say "listen, I don't want to talk to you so piss the fuck off" - I can take that - I CANT'T take lies or all that shit that comes with it.

None of this has anything to do with being gay. What you've just described is life -- period.

Gay, Str8, Bi, Trans, business, non-business, aquaintences, friends, lovers etc....I happens regardless or orientation or relationship.

But to answer your question: What do I hate about being gay?

Answer: Nothing at all.

What do I dislike about the world in general? That some people are intollerant of us.

[abostonboy]

What do I dislike about the world in general? That some people are intollerant of us.

I gave up on that a long time ago. Someone will always find a way to be intolerant of you. For me I used to let it bother me when people criticized for being Buddhist. But you know at the end of the day many that are intollerent (guys in public office etc) are the ones criticizing gays but haing sex with them. Look at the hypocites and take them for what they are.

And to be honest, many may not see that great things have come about in society based on intollerence.

Just as competion is healthy so can intolerance. Its just the way u handle it.

[Xstr8guy]

“Cough” well that would be a good sign after all your waiter works for tips, but not sure I would say you are to old, but your BF might be a bit young. Their again too if your going to date someone 20 years younger that you or something I would expect that stuff. What if I dated a 6 year old or even a 16 year old :baby: But love is blind I would go with it I guess if it works and you are not really "Dad" too him

Be careful on what you say and how you say it! The last Texan on GWW that made posts like that ended up in prison in Canada.

[DonMike]

I gave up on that a long time ago. Someone will always find a way to be intolerant of you. For me I used to let it bother me when people criticized for being Buddhist.

My friend's mom told me once that she worked with a lady who came to her and said she was concerned that her son was getting involved with a religious cult and what should she do. So my friend's mom asked her if she knew the name of the cult or anything about them. The woman replied that they were called Buddists. LOL!!!

[dannyz]

Personally I have no problems at all being gay, I love being gay and and am so greatful for this life. I look at the lives of 90% of straight people and think my God, how fucking boring!!! We have it so good in so many ways, a few examples:

1. We get to fucked and be fucked, so get the best of both worlds.
2. We have a much easier time getting laid then our straight counterparts.
3. We don't have to be so tied down doing the whole 'marriage and children' thing.
4. We know how to party, dress, and of course have fun!!!

I do agree with Boston Boy however that being 'gay' is just a sexual behaviour, but I don't think of myself as 'a gay.' I am a person and should be judged as a person first, unless you want to sleep with me then it's okay to cruise me first and ask questions later.

[maxpower]

Be careful on what you say and how you say it! The last Texan on GWW that made posts like that ended up in prison in Canada.

I do try to watch what I say believe it or not man, just seems to come out wrong sometimes I guess. I want to say something funny back sorry man its just been a long day for witting this Bio crap and picking 5 second clips for my flash videos so I am a bit drained now. :mental:

[Sana Chan]

What i hate about being gay is being trapped in this woman's body. None of the guys want me. I feel so unwanted. :goof:

[DonMike]

I had a friend say "I'm not defined by my sexuality" but I have to say I disagree.

Being gay does color what movies I see, what books I read, what bars I go to. I guess because I spent a lot of time living in a city where there was very little gay culture and most of my friends were straight, I'm really enjoying living somewhere where I can drive down the street and see other gay people out in the daylight as opposed to hiding in private places. I did the thing where I always went to straight bars and always had a bunch of friends to see straight romantic comedys with but always had to see gay movies alone. And yeah, I'd really rather go to a coffee shop or store that has pics of hot guys all over the walls then half naked women. I still have straight friends and I still go to clubs that have a nice mix of a crowd. In fact, I know more of the straight kinky people in LA than a lot of my other gay friends do. So I keep a nice mix in my life. But would I do all of these particular things if I were straight? No. So does my sexuality have a lot to do with who I am? Yes. I'd have to say so.

[desslock]

I fucking hate the fact that most of your "friends" either want to screw with you or what I find worse is that people say "yeah, I'll call ya". More worse is when people you know for a long time and you lost them somehow came back and tell you oh how much they would like to stay in contact with you, then when you try to call them, email them etc and hear them say "I was gone for a few days and had no access to the net", when you SEE they read the email and when you ask "<name> do you really want to stay in contact" and you get a "oh, please don't ask so hard questions that late at night"... I AM FUCKING WAY BEYOND PISSED AT BEING GAY when it comes to that.

I believe that straights have the same issues, but why can't people just tell you straight in the face and say "listen, I don't want to talk to you so piss the fuck off" - I can take that - I CANT'T take lies or all that shit that comes with it.

I think you are taking a whole bunch of different activities and bunching them up together into a couple of reactions. It also seems in the subcontext of your post that you were sexually attracted to an individual, who would not give you what you perceive as a satisfactory no, and so you react by reflecting back upon them the feeling that they are insincere and have no problem dangling you around the backstage of life like a puppet on a string.

Yes, many people are insincere. But also people are simply just "people" and do not necessarily handle human communications according to a strict protocol.

Communications is a two way street. If I am seeking to get serious with someone, and they aren't interested, should I press my case until they adamently and firmly articulate a verbal rejection? Why not just read the tea leaves? If you can tell that you aren't getting buying signals, then the fish aren't biting.

I bring this up because I've had many people try to get serious with me, and they just aren't my type. And it doesn't mean they are ugly.... Furthermore, if I just want to be friends, to me that has typically meant that when I start treating them like any of my other friends they start acting put off. And I am also guilty of mysteriously no longer answering emails or IMs, etc ..... but what do you do? I don't want to lead them on, while on the other hand I've always personally had confrontation issues.

I don't think this is a "gay thing." Human nature is just complicated.

Steve