Great.

but being gay isn't about who you're fucking.

I'm gay even when I don't have a dick in my mouth.

Being gay isn't what you "do" it's what you "are". And by staying in the closet, you're perpetuating the idea that being gay is just a dirty secret.

It's not.

Or, at the very least, it shoudln't be.

Thing only become normalized when they're not an issue, and by keeping it a big secret, you make it a big issue.