Thanks for the recommendations everyone

dexxxter, I checked your site and see you are using eprocessingnetwork. I couldn't see their fee structure and don't know them, but if you already have a merchant account you may want to check netbilling.com - they are big players in the adult processing / gateway market and I am sure they will be able to help you out.

As for a shopping cart, I can recommend x-cart.com, they have a few products that run from your server that offer various levels of functionality, starting at about $100.

Finally for hosting, I am happy to help you out and get you setup, if you send me your requirements (ie, bandwidth and disk needs) I will be able to recommend a package that is right for you. I am on sales@chilihost.com or icq 118860760.

cheers!
Luke