lee, you really are an optimist - which is really nice.

i have known many straight couples who got married. not all, but a large percent, had the wedding their family forced on them - or that was pushed on them in some other way. most were exhausted after the wedding, and tense that some of the planning would go wrong during. they went to horrible repeated rehearsals and sent out announcements and invites that cost a fortune and didn't reflect them at all. many spent way too much money, and didn't have the music they wanted, the service they wanted - nor the clothes or food they wanted.

many couples i've known who NEVER argue argue just before the wedding, 'cause they're doing it for their families or some other body - not themselves.

have you never been to weddings like this?