I agree with Lee. Big deal.

Then again, I like when guys who are perceived to be "total tops" (like Parker Williams) turn the tables and bottom. In my opinion, more gay men need to taught the joys of versatility, b'cuz it's a fucking BEAUTIFUL thing to truly be in touch with your body in such a way.

This is COMPLETELY over-generalizing, but I remember a magazine once humorously pointing out what it meant to be a total top and/or a total bottom. It was something like:

Total Tops: Gay guys with masculinity and control issues -- in other words, self-hating, lazy bums

Total Bottoms: Emasculated momma's boys with inferiority complexes

I always had to chuckle when I read those things, b/cuz there is a bit of truth to them, you have to admit. Most total tops I know--with SOME exceptions--tend to be assholes with MAJOR control issues who like to boss people around. Most total bottoms I know frustrate the hell out of me, b/cuz I like both sexual partners to be on the same playing field, and damn it, sometimes I want the other guy to get a little aggressive with ME for a change!

Again, I'm overgeneralizing, but that has also been my experience to a large degree--with a few exceptions.

It's interesting to note that total tops and bottoms didn't really exist in porn until the early 1980s, when gay-for-pay porn stars came along. Before that, MOST gay porn (with the exception of perhaps Colt) featured models who were ALL versatile and who flip-fucked to their hearts' content. Even the biggest, roughest and toughest-looking guys got fucked back in the '70s.

I firmly believe that the boom of '80s porn (and directors like Matt Sterling, who glorified gay-for-pay models who would only top and not kiss) has contributed in HUGE ways to the evolution of men as total tops and bottoms. It's one theory that I will be examining in my next book, The SeXXX-Files: The History of Gay Porn and Its Influence on Gay Male Sexuality. Should be a fun chapter to write!