luke, i think it's more complicated than that. most gay people would be very angry or sad to be kept out of a straight hotel, and that has happened a lot.

so how does the reverse not apply? do you want to be kept out of a club where a band you want to see is playing, or they have a cool theme? if not, the reverse is true.

i don't hang out at the baths, or at anonymous sex clubs. i have friends that thought it would be funny if i came - one friend worked the desk at the local baths - but i think it would be inappropriate and inconsiderate so i didn't go.

i would be very sad not to be able to go dancing with friends at a gay club. they would miss me. they are not very welcome at a lot of straight clubs, nor do i appreciate macho jerks walking up to me and saying "nice tits" all night - which is what happens at straight clubs. so we pretty much have to go to gay clubs to dance or hang out.