Best Date Ever?

[001010100110]

Do gay men even go on dates anymore? When a guy asks me out, I ask what he wants to do and its always 'see a movie', 'grab some coffee', or 'go out to the club'.
The best date I've ever had has got to be hiking up to the top of Mt. Idyllwild, getting caught in the rain and running down, sopping wet. It was kind of a disaster, but it was the most fun I've ever had on a date.

[maxpower]

I can see that, but that would be like a 10-15 date kinda thing, I am not so sure about the whole date thing anyway, normally just like to hang out. I used to go to a amusement park allot on my first few dates, I would take in some liquor in a water bottle or something, put it in the lockers you can get and make some mixed drinks with the cokes they provide as you wanted. Really did make the ride more fun, and I would advice anyone that goes to get a “Fast Pass” I could tell you some really fucked up stories, but I have to leave some stuff out I guess :goof:










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[Jasun]

Yeah, before I met my BF, I went out on dates all the time.

My BF and I still do, although it's a bit different.

I'd take guys out to movies and to the beach and to go play on the swings on Center Island.

I mean, yeah, I'd usually take them back to my place and fuck 'em, but I'd make sure they had a good time, too.

[001010100110]

Well it seems like too many guys try to circumvent the having a good time in public and just go straight to the source. If I am actually interested in a guy I won't have sex with him on the first date. If i'm just out for a good time though, oh, it's on!

[DEVELISH]

When I'm on a date I make sure the guy has something to say and tell - I usually go out for a beer (like about 2 days ago ), coffee, dinner and just ask open endet questions about him, what he does and so on which one can not answer with yes/no. If he can bear this and is still not maxed out - which I would notice - I help him to find words for the next date saying something like "it was nice and enjoyable, any time again if you like".

Next time I meet this guy is Saturday or Sunday, depends on his work schedule, we will go to a local fair (amusement rides, booths etc) and he said he's bringing a friends of his along... He also said something that I should come along with him to Poland where he's origianally from and I told him OK, but I am very careful with invitations of that kind - eventough I am VERY spontainous when it comes to travelling.

One problem for me is telling about myself though, I often do not know what to tell and find that the person opposite to me does not know what to ask. Also I do not want to tell that my hobbies is computers, building porn sites, gaming on the PC, getting raided once or twice a year (well not THAT often *grin*), having to legal proceedings against me dealing with spreading porn, being almost a mental wrek after seing your first love being taken custody by the police in your apartement, learning of his past and how he tricked/cheated/betrayed you, stole you money and the whole jazz, falling in love with his ex-BF while on a jail visit, feeling TRUE love and how love can hurt and be hurt... engaging in a relationship with another impostor... guess you get the idea...

If though he acceps my past and that my life will not be easy in the next 2-3 years the person will find a truely caring, caressing guy with me who protects his partner in any way I can. Who wants to broaden both our horizons with new ideas, impressions, travelling etc. A guy who can learn, teach and experiment with new stuff equally; a guy who is honest, straight sometimes blunt.

Gotta stop here, getting sentimental

Develish

[Paco]

I do so love listening to the music the rain makes as it dances in puddles, lightly tapping on my tent, taunting me to come out and play.

The best date I've ever had has got to be hiking up to the top of Mt. Idyllwild, getting caught in the rain and running down, sopping wet. It was kind of a disaster, but it was the most fun I've ever had on a date.

HOO_AH ... that sounds like something I'd enjoy - I would not 'bomb-down'.
I really like hiking in the rain (helps keep me cool), as well the time spent in my tent (sleeping, or whatever) while it rains.

[Paco]

One problem for me is telling about myself though, I often do not know what to tell and find that the person opposite to me does not know what to ask. Also I do not want to tell that my hobbies is computers, building porn sites, gaming on the PC, getting raided once or twice a year (well not THAT often *grin*), having to legal proceedings against me dealing with spreading porn, being almost a mental wrek after seing your first love being taken custody by the police in your apartement, learning of his past and how he tricked/cheated/betrayed you, stole you money and the whole jazz, falling in love with his ex-BF while on a jail visit, feeling TRUE love and how love can hurt and be hurt... engaging in a relationship with another impostor... guess you get the idea...
If though he acceps my past and that my life will not be easy in the next 2-3 years the person will find a truely caring, caressing guy with me who protects his partner in any way I can. Who wants to broaden both our horizons with new ideas, impressions, travelling etc. A guy who can learn, teach and experiment with new stuff equally; a guy who is honest, straight sometimes blunt. Gotta stop here, getting sentimental
Develish

Develish, any man would be more than lucky to have you for a friend, partner &/or lover.
Do you have a soft spot (well, maybe not that soft) for :devious: :sneak: :shifty: bad boys.

[DEVELISH]

Develish, any man would be more than lucky to have you for a friend, partner &/or lover.

If my partner is frank and honest, yes. The worst thing one can do to me is not to communicate. By now I can deal with every issue or problem there is in a cool and rational way.

Do you have a soft spot (well, maybe not that soft) for :devious: :sneak: :shifty: bad boys.

Well, it catches my attention and makes you somewhat interesting depending on how bad you are. Deviousness sneakiness is definately a NO go! Shiftiness in a positive way is im my eyes a pro rather than a con.
I like walking the thin line between white and black even if I lean more towards black rather than white.

:develish:

p.s. guess where my Nick is coming from now

[DEVELISH]

Ok now - I don't want to hijack this thread with my sentimental shit

Where do you guys date?

:develish:

[001010100110]

I would not 'bomb-down'. I really like hiking in the rain (helps keep me cool), as well the time spent in my tent (sleeping, or whatever) while it rains.

That was the best part...for me adrenaline=testosterone, also, because I'm so active I always have way too much energy. If I don't run or do something extremely active, I can't concentrate (sometimes a very bad thing), but it makes me a fun person I guess.

When I'm on a date I make sure the guy has something to say and tell - I usually go out for a beer (like about 2 days ago ), coffee, dinner and just ask open endet questions about him, what he does and so on which one can not answer with yes/no. If he can bear this and is still not maxed out - which I would notice - I help him to find words for the next date saying something like "it was nice and enjoyable, any time again if you like".

I take a different approach to dating Develish. I can't stand those dates (especially first ones) where it is like an interview. I can deal and accept anything about the dude's past if I can have a hella good time with him laughing, telling jokes, trail running, surfing, and other stuff that is fun. I don't feel the need to tell my life story on every date and I don't want to hear most people's story, esp. on a first date. If it works out, then we'll share while we are having breakfast in bed sometime, not on a first date.

Where do you guys date? :develish:

And it better be outdoors, or I ain't showing up.

[XXXWriterDude]

I like going to dinner and a movie, then maybe out for a drink afterwards to talk about the movie. That's a good date for me. Or walking around the Grove in Hollywood. Great place for a date. All those white twinkly lights are so romantic. It's like a scene from a romantic comedy just waiting to happen.

Other than that, I like hiking up Runyon Canyon or going to to Venice/Santa Monica and walking around the boardwalk/beach and stuff.

[rainbowglobe]

I only go on dates with guys with onething to say that intelligent.

Brains for me are sexy as they make the guy more interesting and generally the guys with most brains are the best in bed as they "Know what they want and go for it" as they are clear, clever and have un fucked up minds

[DonMike]

I haven't been on a date in ages. That's one really sad thing about a lot of guys who are into leather. They often want to set up a first meeting like it's an appointment. It's like those guys who go out the first time and already consider you thier boyfriend just because they really want a boyfriend. I'm sorry, that's just not me. I guess that's why I never date. As kinky as I am, I'm a romantic at heart. Sure I want a leatherman who will tie me up and flog me and all that fun stuff, but I want to be able to cuddle with him afterwards, and wake up over coffee and good conversation, go to the movies and stuff. There's no reason why I can't have my cake and eat it too. And he has to be able to hang out with my friends. I had a friend who hooked up with this guy and totally blew off all of his friends. Now the only friends he has are his boyfriend's and they are totally in thier own little world. I'm sorry, this is my life and I want someone to be part of it, I don't need to leave mine and enter someone else's. I see a good relationship as the merging of the two lives.

What do I think of as a good first date? Hmmm, it's been so long I don't remember. LOL! Movies are nice but that's a big chunk of time you are sitting there not communicating, so I don't know if that would be my choice for a first date. I'd take him to the Santa Monica Pier, where we can talk while we watch the ocean, ride the silly ass roller coaster and laugh about it, play some games or something. If you're too haughty taughty to do that with me that I'm not gonna want to see you again. Dinner at Bubba Gump or one of the other places on the pier, or go down to the Third Street Promanade and find a place there. Then go walking around and watch the street performers, the psychic cat or some other such nonsense. If it's early in the day we could go to Venice and hit the thrift shops and sidewalk vendors. No sex on the first date, but we could go to the Eagle and see if anyone we know is getting tied up, or if I really like him I'd let him flog me on the chain web (but only if I know for sure that he's experienced). Yeah, that would be a perfect date for me.

[XXXWriterDude]

What do I think of as a good first date? Hmmm, it's been so long I don't remember. LOL! Movies are nice but that's a big chunk of time you are sitting there not communicating, so I don't know if that would be my choice for a first date. I'd take him to the Santa Monica Pier, where we can talk while we watch the ocean, ride the silly ass roller coaster and laugh about it, play some games or something. If you're too haughty taughty to do that with me that I'm not gonna want to see you again. Dinner at Bubba Gump or one of the other places on the pier, or go down to the Third Street Promanade and find a place there. Then go walking around and watch the street performers, the psychic cat or some other such nonsense. If it's early in the day we could go to Venice and hit the thrift shops and sidewalk vendors. No sex on the first date, but we could go to the Eagle and see if anyone we know is getting tied up, or if I really like him I'd let him flog me on the chain web (but only if I know for sure that he's experienced). Yeah, that would be a perfect date for me.

That's a good first date, Don. I love the Pier. Movies are good for the 3rd or 4th date, actually. But they also give you something to talk about.

[desslock]

I haven't been on a date since the 1980s. I guess people still do that... but then I also sabotauge efforts for that pretty early on.

Some dates can be good, and some can be humorously bad. The First-Date I experienced with the guy who ended up being my bf for 2 yrs during college was a classic "bad date"

The night before this jerk gave me a really bad mark on my neck, which of course showed up late that day of the date.... so it was too late really to cancel. Then for the actual date, we watched this movie playing at a theater on UT's campus.

So we go and sit through this black and white movie called Repulsion which was made in the early 1970s, and it was about Catherine Deneuve going slowly insane.

That was a memorable evening.

Steve