I had a friend say "I'm not defined by my sexuality" but I have to say I disagree.

Being gay does color what movies I see, what books I read, what bars I go to. I guess because I spent a lot of time living in a city where there was very little gay culture and most of my friends were straight, I'm really enjoying living somewhere where I can drive down the street and see other gay people out in the daylight as opposed to hiding in private places. I did the thing where I always went to straight bars and always had a bunch of friends to see straight romantic comedys with but always had to see gay movies alone. And yeah, I'd really rather go to a coffee shop or store that has pics of hot guys all over the walls then half naked women. I still have straight friends and I still go to clubs that have a nice mix of a crowd. In fact, I know more of the straight kinky people in LA than a lot of my other gay friends do. So I keep a nice mix in my life. But would I do all of these particular things if I were straight? No. So does my sexuality have a lot to do with who I am? Yes. I'd have to say so.