Good Straight Board

[Huskyhunks]

What is to be gained from going on a straight board ?

[Lee]

What is to be gained from going on a straight board ?

Well a lot of us promote more than just gay sites or are thinking of doing so over the coming months

Regards,

Lee

[Huskyhunks]

I didn't even think of that. It makes alot of sense. I used to post on AVSfriendly which is now WebmasterFriendly but other than that I guess I just lump them all into the GFY kind of forum.

[Dzinerbear]

What partially got me thinking about it was I went looking for blog directories to get my blog listed, and a lot of them are owned by straight webmasters. And while those sites may not offer me tons of traffic, I never know until I see what is out there.

I think checking out some straight boards is also good to see what other people are doing and how it might be applied to my business model.

And finally, when I asked here about "pegging" sponsors, that is guys getting boned by girls with strap-ons, I got a few of replies. When I asked on a straight board, I got over ten. And shit, I found out it's actually called "pegging." Who knew?

Michael

[XXXWriterDude]

my point was/is it is merely a word, which is used to categorize others (something we all do).

A female has children with her partner. What is the name of that act?
4NK8'ing ?
CopUL8'ing ?
Breeding ?
All the same to me!

I do believe you forgot that I am a "heterosexual" male, whom BTW does not H8 himself, but I does hate the use of that term, het!

Kryst - I hate seeing the word gay 'cause it yells hate. Time to stop spreading the hate!

The word "breeder" is not more or less insulting than god, gay, latino, hate, love, the sign :nobody: etc.

Anybody care to stop using them?

What I hate about the word "breeder" is that it is just not accurate. Gay people are having children BIOLOGICALLY at an increasing rate, so to me, use of the word "breeder" implies that only straight people have kids. And it's simply not true.

Time to stop using the word. I'm a potential breeder myself, and if you're going to use that terminology to describe straight people, then you damn site better use it to categorize me and the thousands of gay people who either plan to have or already have their own children.

THAT's the real issue here.

[DonMike]

Well spoken, Ken. Although the idea of having a kid absolutely terrifies me. That's one thing that is great about being gay. You don't have to worry about accidentally getting your partner pregnant.

[DamageX]

Well spoken, Ken. Although the idea of having a kid absolutely terrifies me. That's one thing that is great about being gay. You don't have to worry about accidentally getting your partner pregnant.

Yet...

[DonMike]

Aaaaaahhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:shock:

[pocoloco78]

Check out Netpond. It's my personal favorite.
People are friendly and always willing to help you out.

[Madame0120]

Yet...

LOL! A couple I've known since the 70's found me last year on my HS Classmates website. It had been 25 years since I heard from either of them, and I can't tell you how happy I was not just to know they are still alive, but that they are still loving partners. What suprized me most is the beautiful Daughter they are raising together.

The lil angel is the spittin' image of Jimmy, but I refrained from asking who else he stupped, beside me. Sigh .. too old now to add a notch to that headboard again.


:innocent: Those were the days my Friend, we thought they'd never end. We'd sing and dance forever and a day.

[Epoch Holly]

I like posting on GFY despite some of the homophobes, I also post on Adult Insider, Web Overdrive and Just Blow me... Hope that helps!:bow:

[DonMike]

You know what's funny. I'll post at GFY on rare occasions, if I have something to add, but that's it. But on other boards, I try to keep in mind that the reason a lot of people make homophobic remarks is simply because they don't know any gay people. And more often then not they don't even think about the fact that what they are saying can actually affect real people. And getting defensive doesn't help. Think about it, someone who is used to making fun of a group finally gets talk to someone from that group and all they do is make a big scene for having been made fun of, it just sends the point home that there is nothing in common there and now there is even more reason to make nasty comments. However, if you take a little time to just let them know that you are a real person and that their words really hurt, it may make them think twice. I usually try to do this with humor. Laughter is a great means of communication.

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that empathy towards another person is a much better way towards communication than just reacting to a single statement.

On the other hand, sometimes it's a lost cause. There are a lot of people on GFY who only look at us as something to be laughed at and mocked, and I feel no need to play their game. When I do post there it's for the people to whom I can actually communicate with. The rest can pretty much take a hint from the boards title.

[DamageX]

You know what's funny. I'll post at GFY on rare occasions, if I have something to add, but that's it. But on other boards, I try to keep in mind that the reason a lot of people make homophobic remarks is simply because they don't know any gay people. And more often then not they don't even think about the fact that what they are saying can actually affect real people. And getting defensive doesn't help. Think about it, someone who is used to making fun of a group finally gets talk to someone from that group and all they do is make a big scene for having been made fun of, it just sends the point home that there is nothing in common there and now there is even more reason to make nasty comments. However, if you take a little time to just let them know that you are a real person and that their words really hurt, it may make them think twice. I usually try to do this with humor. Laughter is a great means of communication.

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that empathy towards another person is a much better way towards communication than just reacting to a single statement.

On the other hand, sometimes it's a lost cause. There are a lot of people on GFY who only look at us as something to be laughed at and mocked, and I feel no need to play their game. When I do post there it's for the people to whom I can actually communicate with. The rest can pretty much take a hint from the boards title.

Do onto others... Agreed on GFY too, it brings out the worst in people and some feel in their right element on that board.

[DonMike]

DamageX, you've got a great board going on there. I've only been around for a week or so but I'm really diggin' it.

I've told this story before but it's worth repeating. Years ago I was living in Pittsburgh with this straight guy. His family was coming to visit and he had to sit me down and prepare me for this visit. He said his brother was homophobic, only because he didn't really know any gay people and that I should have some patience with him, and being from NYC he was very brazen and outspoken and people in the family all walked on eggshells with him so as not to piss him off.

So it took me a day or so to get to know him, and see where our boundaries were. Then we were all sitting in the living room one day and I had made some off the cuff remark about giving a blow job (obviously the parents weren't around) and he looked at me, made a face and went "Jesus, do ya have to talk like that". Without missing a beat I said, "Oh come on, like you never had a cock in your mouth before."

You could have heard a pin drop. He just looked at me for a moment... Everyone nervously looked back and fourth from me to him and back again, waiting for him to pummel me into a stain on the floor. Then something happened that surprised everyone. He started to laugh. He respected the fact that I could joke with him when most other people wouldn't. And when it was time for the family to go back to New York everyone was astonished to see him give me a hug.

My point being is that we got to a good place with each other. I have straight friends who can call me "fag" and whom I can call "breeder" and we both know it's all in fun. But we found that place first. I think it's all in being able to respect each other and knowing when boundaries can be crossed and when they should not even be approached. I genuinely like people, all kinds. So when I get a chance to converse with someone who's totally not like me (and lets face it, there are very few people who are just like me) I'm excited because once you can actually communicate with someone you can learn a lot from them and you can teach them a thing or two as well.

[DonMike]

Um... sorry for going on a tangent people. Y'all can tell me to shut the fuck up if you want. LOL! Man, I'm on a roll today. :bunnypancake: