I hear you and i feel the same way. We have Civil Partenerships in the UK. The thing is, thats another days battle. The first step has to be to get the right to marry. You can call it what you like.

Sooner or later every state will have gay marriage, and every state will call it that because its your basic human right. For now, at least you have these rights. Many states seem like a hundred years away from that.