Are you masculine or feminine?

[longboardjim]

maybe it's a way of asking "indirectly" are you "top or bottom?"

sincerely ~ ..."top-only" looking for cuddley-bottom that likes to get rimmed & rammed for hours , please submit pic's of bumper!"... :fool:

[Dzinerbear]

maybe it's a way of asking "indirectly" are you "top or bottom?"

Yeah, I thought of that, too, but it's just stupid, fueling the stereotype that to be a bottom is less than a man, submissive, feminine ... why not just ask if you're a top or bottom rather than attaching some judgement to it?

Michael

[basschick]

and yet one of my best friends is a very effeminate top.

i think asking people if they're masculine or feminine is a rude question myself - and pointless since masculine and feminine vary according to the eyes of the beholder.

maybe it's a way of asking "indirectly" are you "top or bottom?"

sincerely ~ ..."top-only" looking for cuddley-bottom that likes to get rimmed & rammed for hours , please submit pic's of bumper!"... :fool:

[longboardjim]

agreed! , i think it's rude but it does "cut to the chase" when determing potential sex partners for the evening instead of being surprised later with another top. (interpreted: i am attracted to other masculine men such as myself so too often i am hitting on other tops!)
i have run across "effeminate" tops (needlepoint anyone?) and "masculine" bottoms (field tested and jack-hammered approved!) so it does vary. (interpreted: when bottoms are not masking the "scent" with cologne's and perfumed soaps you can smell a guy who wants to be...)
this also explains why i seem to be more "group-oriented" (interpreted: i'm too much of a gentlemen to ask?)

sincerely ~ ..."all topped up and no one to ram!"... :fool:

[Ethan Masters]

You also have people that find feminine guys as a turn off, maybe they see it as just another screening point. If i'm a guy that wants to date a guy that actually acts like one, running across someone who wears makeup and pumps on the weekend might not be the one for me *shrugs*

Still though, people definitely dwell too much on labeling EVERYTHING!

[longboardjim]

agreed! , too many labels , why can we just leave it as a generic "dominate/submissive" (interpreted: a woman can be dominate)

sincerely ~ ..."me tarzan , you jane!"... :fool:

[Lee]

You also have people that find feminine guys as a turn off, maybe they see it as just another screening point. If i'm a guy that wants to date a guy that actually acts like one, running across someone who wears makeup and pumps on the weekend might not be the one for me *shrugs*

Still though, people definitely dwell too much on labeling EVERYTHING!

I actually do think this is what they were trying to do in some kind of 'screening' process.

Regards,

Lee

[friskypickles]

Not to change the angle of the subject matter but I think it's hilarious when you have these preconceived notions of what a porn model sounds and moves like when all that you have seen is photos and him in action on film. I won't name names but I've met several models and known some that the moment they are off camera and open their mouths, out comes Madonna, Snagglepuss, and Bruce Vilanch all rolled into one. Some are brutal tops on film.

What I am saying is, before we start labeling ourselves again on chat sites more, we need to think about how we are portraying gay men on film. Butch? Femme? Does it really matter?

[mistwist]

Hi guys someone just pointed this out to me and I want to clear something up.

We are not trying to label anyone at ManLuv, it's not about a label, it is about helping a guy find exactly what he is looking for easily. Some men prefer a fem guys, some prefer a masculine guys.

If you were to sign up to another site and do a search, man seeking man, but you prefer fem guys over masculine wouldn't your search be made a little easier if things were broken down further?

It's for ease of use, to help the end user find the exact person he is looking for, nothing more.

[Sha]

I have met many of bottoms that were very masculine though. I think it is just another stereotype that some want to try to associate with tops and bottoms.

I do think that it makes since to ask that question on a hookup site though. Some guys do prefer more fem guys and of course some like their guys a bit more masculine. I personally prefer that masculine man.

[XXXWriterDude]

Hi guys someone just pointed this out to me and I want to clear something up.

We are not trying to label anyone at ManLuv, it's not about a label, it is about helping a guy find exactly what he is looking for easily. Some men prefer a fem guys, some prefer a masculine guys.

If you were to sign up to another site and do a search, man seeking man, but you prefer fem guys over masculine wouldn't your search be made a little easier if things were broken down further?

It's for ease of use, to help the end user find the exact person he is looking for, nothing more.

Regardless of sentiments expressed in my previous post, I understand what you're trying to accomplish with ManLuv, Melissa. It makes perfect sense. Hopefully one day gay men won't place such importance on things like "masculine" and "feminine," but that's not really your problem as a business owner serving the gay market.

[basschick]

and yet that VERY effeminate top i talked about thinks he's the epitome of masculinity. so asking doesn't really solve anything, and makes it more likely that people will lie or mislead.

when the people start to talk or show each other photos, they'll figure out if they're attracted without asking a question that feels like a straight person's version of gay male relationships to me.

btw, ken - there are gay men out there that are centered and happy. there are also gay men with tons of issues, but masculine vs feminine was never one of them. everyone doesn't have the same problems or we'd never have drama

Hi guys someone just pointed this out to me and I want to clear something up.

We are not trying to label anyone at ManLuv, it's not about a label, it is about helping a guy find exactly what he is looking for easily. Some men prefer a fem guys, some prefer a masculine guys.

If you were to sign up to another site and do a search, man seeking man, but you prefer fem guys over masculine wouldn't your search be made a little easier if things were broken down further?

It's for ease of use, to help the end user find the exact person he is looking for, nothing more.