Jesse was a social friend of mine, and it wasn't really a huge secret what him and the cop were doing. Rios was harassing him, and I think Jesse either told Mr Rios that he was going to out him to his wife if he didn't stop, or Rios did this to prevent that from happening without provocation. Either way it's fucked up horrible shit, and I "preach" at the young guys in Columbia all the time about getting involved with married men, and at married men for "preying" on younger gay men behind their wives backs. It all pisses me off. Jesse should have known better, everyone should. I am deeply upset and disturbed by what happened to him and can only pray that it serves as an example to his generation that life can be over in a second, and the wrong choices can last forever. I know younger gay men around here will be looking over their shoulders a LOT more now. I know way too many around here already who have been raped through gay.com and the local bars, by older men with the mentality of "They aren't out to their family so they won't tell, that would be outting themselves." Thank God for PFLAG and other local efforts that keep chipping away at social and in home mentalities that lead to these kind of things!