Who should be grateful? Programs or webmasters?

[BananaMan]

Should Program owners treat webmasters as if the webmasters are responsible for putting food on their table??

OR

Should webmasters treat program owners as if it was the program owners who put food on the webmasters' table??
What do affiliates do that makes their value added greater than their cost?

I would say that it is a reciprocal relationship benefitting both parties, rather than one benefitting at the expense of the other.