Basschick,

You should not feel bad about the way you answered and no one on here should judge you for how you feel. Feeling are just that....feelings. They really aren't something that we can control, they are just there.

You are absolutely correct that condoms can break. I've had it happen many times and no one can blame you for not wanting to acquire HIV and the associated problems that come with that diagnosis. Who in their right mind would want that?

I've been living with HIV for nearly 10 years now and except for the past year I've been partnered during that time. I've also lived in Palm Springs most of that time and the rate of HIV+ guys there is much higher than in most cities. I really can't think of a time that I've ever been turned down because of my status and, I suppose, if I were, my "feelings" would be hurt. But then, they are feelings and just feelings and not something I really have a lot of control over.

I think all of us are free to make our own decisons whether or not we choose to have sex with someone who is positive. If we choose not to, well, we all have that right and we should not have to justify why we choose not to no should we be judged for making that decision.

Bill