Quote Originally Posted by Matt 26z View Post
I said no, and I must wonder how many of those who voted yes are already HIV+, or maybe they are total tops. But a - bottom willing to take it from a + top? Anyone answer yes with that in mind?

To me anyone who is - that knowingly has sex with a + is just asking for trouble. I don't care if condoms are being used, it will break eventually. Plus there have been cases of it being passed orally, so this "saliva kills HIV" argument that you hear sometimes is just stupid.

While I am sure that guys with HIV feel ostracized in a lot of situations, I am not willing to put their hurt feelings ahead of my own body.


What do you then suggest hiv+ men do for sex..both tops and bottoms?
Have sex only with other hiv+ men? But even there, if the condom breaks (I thought we had learned that condoms are really very difficult to break in most cases, but I guess the constant fear of what IF still scares a lot of people) you risk the virus mutating.

Not asking you to feel guilty or bad, just put yourself in the place of an hiv+ man as myself, and you start feeling like a leper! It's almost like you should give up sex for the rest of your life. That is how sad it is these days to be hiv+!

So, in general, is this the stance of the gay community? Hiv- people should avoid sex with hiv+ people if possible?