Basschick is completely right about the situation in Germany. Nothing to add here.

Simon, the problem with going overseas, or even moving to the Netherlands, is that you are still a German (if you are). And if you break German laws, especially those related to anything sexual, you still could be held liable under German laws, even if you were completely legal in the country where you didn't comply to German laws.

So for example, if someone knows or finds out that you are the owner of a foreign operated website which doesn't comply to the German laws and reports you to the authorities, you could be in trouble. I don't know if this is a realistic scenario, but if you want to take chances give it a try.

The problem is that the German government listens very much to all the lobbyists which tell them that the internet can be governed by German laws. Their strongest weapon is protection of the youth, which is actually a good thing (but only in sexual context, nazi shit is pretty okay if you want to throw it at young people). However, for all the lobbying organizations it's more about getting their hands on government money instead of doing some real work to help and protect young people.