how is the obama presidency going to end this exactly?
given that some dems have given reasoning against banning gay marriage in the constitution that states should themselves decide.

the states voted no, florida especially where 60% are needed for anything to pass is at 62% to ban ... the reality is reality. You can't make people accept something they won't. And if you do force it on them they end up hating you.

Exit polls for florida:
53% of 18-29/52% of 18-24 year olds in florida voted yes to ban
65% of 30-44 year olds voted yes and it goes up from there
56% of moderates also voted yes
71% of african americans voted yes
only white evangelicals voted more than them at 86% yes

http://www.cnn.com/ELECTION/2008/results/polls/#FLI01p1

AND there are MANY gays who are not pro gay marriage for a variety of reasons. I think it was something like 30% in the 2004 elections. I read an analysis somewhere I think it was in 2004 where many gays thought marriage was something straight people do and to them gay people marring was like trying to be (like) straight people