Interesting thread.

Unfortunately, this kind of problem happens acroos the board - not just with adult website programs.

For example, on my non-adult sites I have sold magazine subscriptions through a large magazine affiliate program. The first program I used had all this extra ad stuff right there on their store pages - Fastclick ads, google adwords. Things I'll never get credit for.
I ultimately switched to more professional looking affiliate in that case.

Let me suggest, that if there is a gay website program that has unrelated banners on their product pages, then write that program and let them know. I think that a lot of them are just forgetting "our perspective." So it would behoove us to explain why we would be reluctant to send them business if we are not got to get rewarded for our efforts.

Another suggestion - if the programs in question does this, and lots of us on this fourm use them, maybe posting it on here and motivating others to communicate the problem would help bring it to their attention.

This is what webmasters on the other affiliate sites do.

Steve