Being gay is not about the actions taken--one is gay because of feeling attracted to the same sex. Being gay or straight isn't a choice--engaging in sex [gay or straight] is a choice--so it is easy to be gay and be celibate. Wait, hmm....celibate isn't easy ;-) I meant to say you CAN be gay and not have sex~~ I just won't recommend it....

Regardless of orientation , I think everyone should enjoy regular recreational sexual contact with a willing adult of their choosing!