Originally posted by Matt 26z
Only two things are for certain. It's not a choice, and your position on the gay / straight scale can change over the course of your life.

I do not believe people are born gay. I think it's linked to experiences in life. So it stands to reason that those sexuality-changing experiences don't necessarily begin or end at any specific age, and that your sexuality may be constantly changing even if it's just 1 or 2 percentage points either way over a ten year period. For some people though, it may be a much greater number.

This is why supposedly gay men can be in the closet and married to a woman for 15 years. I don't believe they were gay at the start, at least not enough to be officially considered gay. They may have been bi at 90% straight / 10% gay, and over time those numbers changed enough to get them questioning more and more.
While you bring up some good points... I couldn't disagree with you more!

I'm 40... and for the first 34 years of my life, I lived as a straight man. I dated only women and got married... and even though I appeared to be straight, I never truly was.

I have always been gay, I was just in such deep denial, I forced myself into a straight life and forbid myself from even fantasizing about men.

Eventually, I couldn't deny my homosexuality anymore. I started venturing into chat rooms and met dozens of other men that were married but gay-curious. That's when I realized that there were thousands of men just like me... all living a lie.

Admitting my homosexuality to myself was even harder then telling my friends and family. But I've never been happier than I am right now.

My only regret... I didn't do it sooner!