Good people anywhere are hard to find, let alone in a community of people that have been persecuted, abused and rejected.

I've always seen the Gay "scene" as in intermediary between living a life of exclusion and acceptance. Before the Gay "scene" you are different "excluded" , during the gay scene you are "included", after the Gay "scene" you have made friends, and surrounded yourself with people where you are accepted. This is where you leave the Gay "scene" and become a part of the Gay community.

Scene queens are a virus to the Gay community. Most have lived lives where they were rejected and judged upon, and only know how to interact that way with others. By not dealing with their issues they are tearing apart, not bringing together, the Gay community. They tend to focus on how someone isn't like them because they don't follow the same fashion rules, etc. and haven't come to the realization that we're all more alike then we are different.

Try making friends with people not based on what they look like, have or wear, but based on what they do and how you feel when you're around them. What your "friends" are doing now is making you miserable. A lot of good people can be found at Gay volunteer organizations and political groups. Choose wisely and your future friends will enhance your life, and you theirs. :high: my .00000002 cents worth.