how to break up and stay grown up truly depends on the reasons why you broke up in the first place. If you truly feel that for yourself that you were being held back - and needed to mature beyond what this person offers - then you made your first steps.

If someone broke up with you - recognize the joy that you saved yourself many years of hardship or bullshit if they decided further down the road that it wasnt meant to be. Thank them for it !! You dont want to be with anyone who have a wandering eye and will cheat on you.

If after the break up there is childish shit happening between the two - then there is some obvious feelings that need to be addressed. Is it possible to have a positive break up? of course, as long as both parties talk it out and realize that they can be better off and use it as a learning experience.

Finding the right person is an uphill battle going through all the wrong ones, but we must be thankful for them - because with each new relationship, you come closer to the "one" that is for you.