Basschick thanks for your comments, I have a lot of respect for you, I know you have been around a long time.

A designer is what I need, I just cant afford one. I'd rather have a percentage of a going site than 100% of nothing as I have now. Not only a designer but someone who can get me some traffic from SE's.

I have found most banner exchanges and link lists to be rip-offs, they take in my info and list me awhile then drop me, but I am still carrying links to them forever.

And the banner/link thing...I already have too many banners, how many more can I take on, just to get trafficZ? And they want their banner on my index page, some even want it at the top. Come on..