Gay homophopia?

Rainbo1956 · 03-04-2005, 12:38 PM

Originally Posted by Madame0120

What makes me sad is when a Women feels she has to go against her true nature just to be able to live a sane life. I suppose if I had spent most of my adult life lorded over by some idiot slug of a man - or his clone, I'd be searching for the emotional safety and tender care another Woman offers. To feel whole again, I might turn from my true nature and cleave to a Woman.

We all have to find our own ways to make it through this hard life, don't we?

Very interesting perception. And yes, it is sad.
I'd have to say I agree because I know a woman that did just that. She had been in a few abusive relationships with men and, I suppose I'd say that she did seek out the emotional safety and tender care another Woman. They ended up being together for over 6 years. But, when the woman re-discovered that she was indeed straigh, she ended the relationship with her female partner. They remained friends (though, I always felt her lesbian partner was devistated)

Some years later, my fried found and married a wonderful, sweet, supportive man.

**DonMike** · 03-04-2005, 12:59 PM

I've really come to understand that our sexualiy is not all black and white. People may say this but I don't know how many truely understand it.

I can totally understand what Madame0120 is talking about. Being part of the BDSM community myself, I hang with everyone from the gay male only clubs, female only clubs, gay clubs, pansexual clubs, to straight clubs. I have a friend who's a het woman slave in a gay leather family. I know a lesbian who's found that her soul mate and life partner was destined to be male and they have a wonderful life together. I myself, consider myselt totally gay, am only interested in men (re Madame's whole 'Johnson' analogy), yet I've played with women before. S/M playing is on quite a different level than sex. Your back does not know gender of the person thowing a flogger, it only knows the feeling of the flogger itself. Does this make me bi? I don't really think so. I also think that a gay man can have sex with a woman to see what it's like (or a straight man with another man for that matter) and still be what they are made up to be. It's what's inside you, not the activities you engage in.

Sorry for rambling on like this, I just got on a tangent. LOL!

Madame0120 · 03-05-2005, 12:28 AM

I also think that a gay man can have sex with a woman to see what it's like.

Back in the day .. when anything you got infected with was easily fixed with a shot in the bum .. I educated several gay men.

LOL! Not a one of them was turned to the dark side ... I hope it wasn't my technique.

Rainbo1956 · 03-05-2005, 04:29 AM

Originally Posted by Madame0120

I also think that a gay man can have sex with a woman to see what it's like.

Back in the day .. when anything you got infected with was easily fixed with a shot in the bum .. I educated several gay men.

LOL! Not a one of them was turned to the dark side ... I hope it wasn't my technique.

Sheesh....then again I have no idea where you're coming from!