Don, sweetie.

Based on everything you said here, I wouldn't say anything. As you mentioned you're parents are older, they would make themselves sick over it. I think you have to ask yourself, "In the end, what good would come from it?"

You live your life freely and you're not ashamed of it. You don't hide from it. And from what you've said this isn't something you hide from them you just haven't said anything to confirm or deny it. I still wouldn't say anything.

I feel no shame for who I am nor the things I have done (even the really kinky ones, heh heh).
This is one of the many reasons I admire you!

But would it really help anything to tell them?
From what you've said... No. From what you've said it doesn't even seem to bring relief to you or your relationship with them.

Am I being more of a disservice to myself and my community?
Some would say yes. I've heard this one over and over again. And to be honest this does NOT involve our community... this is about you and your parents ONLY.

Or am I just saving them from some self-inflicted anguish?
Yes you are. And while I think being open is important, I don't think it is if it is to the detriment of those we love. Since you love your parent and know them enough that this will hurt more than help, then I can only suggest that you leave it alone.

You are not a horrible man, Don. And you still will not be a horrible man no matter what you decide to do.

My two cents...

Love ya,
GA