Don, your situation sucks, but to be honest, I'm gonna break with the pack here.

Yes, it might cause them some upset, but let's face it.. they're not gonna be around forever, and don't you think that they should get to know the real you before they go?

I mean really, as it is, there's this huge piece of your life that you've held back from them, you've been acting and pretending to be another person, and quite frankly, that's the person they think is their son, and they're wrong... dead wrong.

My mother considered hiding me being gay from the grand parents, going so far as to say that she hoped they'd die before they found out. I've never been so hurt in my life... but that's not the point. She eventually told her father, who said he was surprised, but that he was glad he found out.. he never wanted the family to be holding anything back from "the old man".

I'd tell them.. Quite honestly, I think you owe it to them to let them meet their actual son for the first time.

Oh, and BDBionic, I've got a similar sister's wedding coming out loudly story.. but this thred is about Don.

We'll have beer some time.