More narrow minds will be expanded as more of us come out of the closet. If every gay man just came out to his family, friends, and co-workers there would only be a dozen people left in the United States that didn't know at least one gay person. The people that hate us don't know us--and that is because we don't tell them who we are and that we are everywhere. We stay hidden, sadly, because once we come out to someone, they stop hating fags and start defending their gay friends.

So, come out come out wherever you are! It is tough--my mother didn't speak to me for 5 months after I told her. Now the only thing that is holding them back from pushing me to marry the man of my dreams is that they know gays can't get married yet. My parents are now very supportive and they are telling their friends--and their friends stopped hating fags and starting defending gay people because they knew me, they knew my parents, and all of a sudden they realized that "fags" weren't just a bunch of HIV positive loners in San Francisco but that gay people really are everywhere and in every family.