I think that some POV/Gonzo stuff is very much ok, and places the viewer "into the scene". We have two or three "gonzo" style videos where it looks like the camera guy is the person spanking. We get mixed reactions.

1. Some of our viewers LOVE it and beg to have more. They claim they can totally get into the scene, and pretent they are there.

2. Some of our viewers HATE it, and say that it is totally distracing, and that they prefer to watch, not "participate".

I think it goes to if you are a voyeur at heart, or a participant at heart. However, I dont find it extreme at all. (Granted in a previous example somewhere in this thread, that sounded a little extreme.)

Regarding bondage with sex...I have always had a problem with this one.

I believe that someone can give consent to be tied up, and then fucked, or whatever. Ethical BD/SM players always have safety words to stop the action. Even if someone is totally gagged, tied up, imobilized, etc. there are ways to still have ongoing consent....for instance...

We recently filmed a scene where a guy was tied up and gagged while being spanked. I was worried that with the gag in his mouth, it would not be clear if he was attempting to use a safety word. The solution? A ping pong ball in his hand. If he held his fist closed around the ball, all was good. But if he opened the fist and allowed the ball to be seen by the camera, or dropped the ball, etc, then we stopped, ungagged, talked etc.

The bottom is ALWAYS in 100% control in ethical BD/SM play, so I don't see how it can be a problem, no matter what you are doing to him(or her) as long as it is agreed to upfront, and that there is ALWAYS a way to stop the action while it is proceeding.

On a side note...I do believe that once we as webmasters start to decide what is "too extreme" or "too disgusting" etc. we are in trouble.