i think the problem is when people who either barely know someone or don't get along that well attempt to make "humorous" remarks. someone called me a bitch or a witch in a thread, as if trying to kid with me. it was someone i had no particularly personal or friendly relationship, and i felt it was out of line. what's more, no one who knows and likes me would have made this particular remark. i believe it is THE only time in 8 years on the boards where i felt a remark to me went over the line, and i said something.

before you can act like you know someone, it's best to get to know them a little first. then you'll know their comfort level and what their sense of humor and limits are about.

there's a difference between being informal and being overpersonal when you don't know someone. a friend of mine who was a rockin' business person once told me his secret to starting business relationships or talking to employees was to be friendly but not personal. i've found that was great advice when first getting to meet someone in biz.