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I say this as someone who has suffered through all of these issues myself. I could write a book on the confusion, frustration and fear that I was faced with growing up a sissy boy in smalltown, white, Republican Pennsylvania. I had masculinity issues out the wazoo for many many years, and I still struggle with them today, though not at all in any way that interferes with my relationships with other men. The older and more comfortable with myself and my body that I've become, the more relaxed I've become in terms of what I am looking for in a partner--whether permanent or temporary. As soon as I realized that I had these issues, I began to work on them. Sadly, I think too many people realize they have issues and then use them as an excuse for shallow behavior instead of thinking outside the box and actually seeing the beauty in ALL KINDS of people, not just their preferred types.

Ken,

Did you ever think that perhaps its just YOU that had these issues and that, shock horror, every gay man doesnt hate themselves as you seem to imply whenever you get the chance?

Perhaps it is/was just YOU that is/was a crackpot who had 'issues' to work out and that the rest of us, are actually stable, sane people who dont hate ourselves and in fact, are quite happy with our bodies, lives, relationships and are happy being gay?

Perhaps, the fact you have lowered your standards in what you look for in a partner means that you really arent looking for a relationship, but are in fact looking to just get laid because of the self-loathing issues you still have for yourself being a gay man that nobody you 'were' looking for, thought you measured up to their standards, physically and mentally?

Just a thought, typically, when you are driving down a 1-way street, with all the other vehicles heading towards you, it means that you fucked up, not the drivers in the other vehicles.

Regards,

Lee