Quote Originally Posted by WegCash Robert View Post
I have had lovers who were positive. You just need to be careful. There are so many people out there that don't know or will not tell you anyways. It's only best for yourself to use protection. It's hard being a single gay man now days. I love it and would never change it
Well said.

Something happened to me early last year. Some kind of click. I'd spent six years being single and .... to put it mildly..... enjoyed it tremendously. Before that I had been in a nine year relationship --- from my ages 21 to 30, so it was like my first time sowing wild oats.

Last year - something changed with me, perhaps it is just getting older. It's like I felt like I was looking for something that I couldn't get anymore. Maybe I've possibly seen it all and done it all. I don't know. But tramping around would become like a narcotic, I'd want to do more of it to get to that same place, but it required more.

At least then I enjoyed being on the wild side, and knew it. So I got that click, and felt instead like settling down.

So last year I met this young guy who really just turned out being a hot mess.

This relationship that only made me feel more confused, and ultimately unsure of what I want. Personally, I am not used to handling being unsure. That coupled with an inescapable sense of looking around and everyone seems so predatory. Eight years ago I had a nice group of friends to spend time with. Most of them have moved away, and so now it's very different.

This time, the same people who would console me and urge me to get out of my bad relationship ultimately since then have hit on me whilst drunk at the bar and want to sleep with me. Ugh. Predatory.

So much of the attitude on this thread is so damn.... Victorian. I guess since we're all pretty Anglo-Saxon on here, it makes sense. People sleep with other people for an infinite number of reasons, not just to find a husband. And risk is a part of living. People engage in risky behavior of varying degrees, because otherwise why go through life if you are restricted to just becoming an Earth muffin?

It's called pursuing your own happiness, and no one ever said that it would be simple or easy.

Steve