btw, in no post here have i said what anyone should do - i posted about myself ONLY. at no time did i suggest who HIV+ men should have sex with, who HIV- men should have sex with or who anyone else should - or shouldn't - have sex with.

i don't believe that my own opinions about my own choices should be turned into a discussion of what other people should do as i do not believe i am the arbiter of what other people should do in their lives. and that applies to ANY life choices, not just sexual ones.

i also don't believe that anyone should decide what i mean when i say something. i generally mean exactly what i say - if i mean something, i say it. so if i say one thing, it doesn't mean something else. if i ask a question, it doesn't indicate a value judgement. if i say what i would do, it doesn't mean that i feel someone else should do the same thing.

and my statements in this post can be applied to anything i say in any post on any board on any subject - and also applies to me in person.